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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 302621" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You cannot really restrict your daughter's friends. If Shy is the kind of girl I think she is she will retaliate if she thinks your daughter is "crossing" her. So your daughter will need to learn a kind of neutral friendship.</p><p></p><p>Be around the other girl on the bus, at school, whatever and not say anything mean to or about Shy. Go ahead and enjoy her life whether Shy is there or not.</p><p></p><p>If she openly ignores or "disses" Shy the ways girls retaliate are vicious and cruel. Chances are Shy has already done some of this. Or she will. Just wait.</p><p></p><p>Talk to your daughter often. Be ready to listen and NOT get all bent out of shape over what Shy does. ASK your daughter why she thinks shy drinks, tries drugs, has sex, is mean to people.</p><p></p><p>Help your daughter see that Shy is hurting and acting out of poor self esteem and possibly self loathing. Maybe help her see how Shy's mom and dad are contributing to the problem, rather than the cause. If problems arise you will have to find a way to hash them out as long as the girls are in the same school.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry your daughter has to put up with this. Keep the communication open with her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 302621, member: 1233"] You cannot really restrict your daughter's friends. If Shy is the kind of girl I think she is she will retaliate if she thinks your daughter is "crossing" her. So your daughter will need to learn a kind of neutral friendship. Be around the other girl on the bus, at school, whatever and not say anything mean to or about Shy. Go ahead and enjoy her life whether Shy is there or not. If she openly ignores or "disses" Shy the ways girls retaliate are vicious and cruel. Chances are Shy has already done some of this. Or she will. Just wait. Talk to your daughter often. Be ready to listen and NOT get all bent out of shape over what Shy does. ASK your daughter why she thinks shy drinks, tries drugs, has sex, is mean to people. Help your daughter see that Shy is hurting and acting out of poor self esteem and possibly self loathing. Maybe help her see how Shy's mom and dad are contributing to the problem, rather than the cause. If problems arise you will have to find a way to hash them out as long as the girls are in the same school. I am sorry your daughter has to put up with this. Keep the communication open with her. [/QUOTE]
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