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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 580749" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>For victims of sexual abuse, it obscures their ability to distinguish between love and abuse. It is very complicated for the victims to untangle all of that, especially if it happened when she was very young. Even with all your doubts, not believing her would be another violation, it's tricky for you, however, for her, if she is truly a survivor of sexual abuse, it is devastating. Waking up to her step grandfather playing with himself is enough to harm her in very profound ways. You may not be able to understand why she would spend time with him, but that doesn't mean she wasn't abused. She needs therapy, help to heal from that. Lying, manipulating, trust issues, safety issues, are all part of sexual abuse. I recall reading that often when you get to the root of addictions you will find sexual abuse. It's a tough spot, but I think giving her the benefit of the doubt is important. She may have confided in M before she was quite prepared to confide in you, there is much, much shame for the victim involved in sexual abuse, even though they were children with no responsibility, they suffer enormous shame.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 580749, member: 13542"] For victims of sexual abuse, it obscures their ability to distinguish between love and abuse. It is very complicated for the victims to untangle all of that, especially if it happened when she was very young. Even with all your doubts, not believing her would be another violation, it's tricky for you, however, for her, if she is truly a survivor of sexual abuse, it is devastating. Waking up to her step grandfather playing with himself is enough to harm her in very profound ways. You may not be able to understand why she would spend time with him, but that doesn't mean she wasn't abused. She needs therapy, help to heal from that. Lying, manipulating, trust issues, safety issues, are all part of sexual abuse. I recall reading that often when you get to the root of addictions you will find sexual abuse. It's a tough spot, but I think giving her the benefit of the doubt is important. She may have confided in M before she was quite prepared to confide in you, there is much, much shame for the victim involved in sexual abuse, even though they were children with no responsibility, they suffer enormous shame. [/QUOTE]
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