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Almost 4 year old out of control & Risperdal questions
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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 407819" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>by the way, wm was put on risperdal at the age of 6 ~ has been on it 10 years now. </p><p></p><p>I truly understand the feeling "I want this kid outta here". Your feelings of desperation are well understood. Saying that, please please please find sometime to yourself. A time when you can recharge & regroup. </p><p></p><p>When my tweedles were placed with husband & myself we thought we'd lose our minds. kt had a 6 month honeymoon - wm didn't honeymoon at all. The day we met he kicked out a door lock in our new car. Knowing that now, husband & I should have left town as fast as we could & not looked back. amada, we were in over our heads. </p><p></p><p>Look at the bio history of mental/emotional issues if you can get your hands on that information. Are there addition/mental/emotional issues further back than bio mom? Grandparents on both sides are a good place to look.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure you've had behavior charts & the like & reward systems. At this point I'd work on stability before you attempt those interventions. There is no way your difficult child will learn unless/until he's stable. As much as possible give your difficult child choices only you can live with - only 2. Cereal or toast for breakfast. Bath or shower. Yellow or red shirt. I gave my difficult children many cues when it came/comes time to switch from one thing to another. I set the timer for 10 minutes & reminded kt & wm a few times during that period it was soon time to.....pick up toys, help with dishes, start bedtime ritual.</p><p></p><p>This gave, especially wm, clear concise choices for his muddled thinking. When wm couldn't decide I took it off his shoulders but let him know that he gave up his time to choose so couldn't get angry with me. I think, for the tweedles, it was a relief to limit things & ultimately decide when each of them was so very unstable.</p><p></p><p>Good luck & please keep us updated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 407819, member: 393"] by the way, wm was put on risperdal at the age of 6 ~ has been on it 10 years now. I truly understand the feeling "I want this kid outta here". Your feelings of desperation are well understood. Saying that, please please please find sometime to yourself. A time when you can recharge & regroup. When my tweedles were placed with husband & myself we thought we'd lose our minds. kt had a 6 month honeymoon - wm didn't honeymoon at all. The day we met he kicked out a door lock in our new car. Knowing that now, husband & I should have left town as fast as we could & not looked back. amada, we were in over our heads. Look at the bio history of mental/emotional issues if you can get your hands on that information. Are there addition/mental/emotional issues further back than bio mom? Grandparents on both sides are a good place to look. I'm sure you've had behavior charts & the like & reward systems. At this point I'd work on stability before you attempt those interventions. There is no way your difficult child will learn unless/until he's stable. As much as possible give your difficult child choices only you can live with - only 2. Cereal or toast for breakfast. Bath or shower. Yellow or red shirt. I gave my difficult children many cues when it came/comes time to switch from one thing to another. I set the timer for 10 minutes & reminded kt & wm a few times during that period it was soon time to.....pick up toys, help with dishes, start bedtime ritual. This gave, especially wm, clear concise choices for his muddled thinking. When wm couldn't decide I took it off his shoulders but let him know that he gave up his time to choose so couldn't get angry with me. I think, for the tweedles, it was a relief to limit things & ultimately decide when each of them was so very unstable. Good luck & please keep us updated. [/QUOTE]
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