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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 186794"><p>Hello and welcome. I understand how you feel completely. I have a difficult child who is violent, destructive and verbally abusive. So I know what it feels like to walk on eggshells. When I first joined this group a couple of years ago I was a complete mess, no strength or confidence. I never thought I would ever be able to kick my child out of my home. I thought that would make me a horrible and selfish parent. Through the support I have gotten here I no longer feel that way. I have gained so much knowledge and strength from the support on this wonderful website. I no longer feel that my whole life has to be about my difficult child. I want my life back and can finally say that out loud without feeling guilty. We, as parents have done all that we can to help our children. We deserve to live too. We deserve to be able to be comfortable in our homes. We deserve to feel safe in our homes. I know how crushing it is to be belittled by the one person you have done so much for. It stinks!!! </p><p></p><p>My difficult child will be 18 in 6 months. I will be faced with the same dilemma very soon. Two years ago, It wouldn't have been a question, I thought I would never be able to put my child out. I feel much differently now. If her behavior remains the same I WILL kick her out. I will not live this way forever, it is not fair to me, my husband or my 7 year old son. We deserve peace too. My sw explained it to me in a way I was able to understand. She said our family is a system, my daughter is only one part of that system, we all matter. If that one part the our family system is not doing her part than why should we let the whole system fall apart. (something like that anyway) Believe me, kicking my daughter out of our house is not something that I am looking forward to, nor is it something that will be easy, nevertheless it is something that I am prepared to do. I know how torn you feel. You will make the right choice for you and your family.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and God bless. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 186794"] Hello and welcome. I understand how you feel completely. I have a difficult child who is violent, destructive and verbally abusive. So I know what it feels like to walk on eggshells. When I first joined this group a couple of years ago I was a complete mess, no strength or confidence. I never thought I would ever be able to kick my child out of my home. I thought that would make me a horrible and selfish parent. Through the support I have gotten here I no longer feel that way. I have gained so much knowledge and strength from the support on this wonderful website. I no longer feel that my whole life has to be about my difficult child. I want my life back and can finally say that out loud without feeling guilty. We, as parents have done all that we can to help our children. We deserve to live too. We deserve to be able to be comfortable in our homes. We deserve to feel safe in our homes. I know how crushing it is to be belittled by the one person you have done so much for. It stinks!!! My difficult child will be 18 in 6 months. I will be faced with the same dilemma very soon. Two years ago, It wouldn't have been a question, I thought I would never be able to put my child out. I feel much differently now. If her behavior remains the same I WILL kick her out. I will not live this way forever, it is not fair to me, my husband or my 7 year old son. We deserve peace too. My sw explained it to me in a way I was able to understand. She said our family is a system, my daughter is only one part of that system, we all matter. If that one part the our family system is not doing her part than why should we let the whole system fall apart. (something like that anyway) Believe me, kicking my daughter out of our house is not something that I am looking forward to, nor is it something that will be easy, nevertheless it is something that I am prepared to do. I know how torn you feel. You will make the right choice for you and your family. Good luck and God bless. :) [/QUOTE]
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