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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 402399" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Cboz - glad you're feeling better. Raising a difficult child (or even a easy child on some days, LOL) can really bring us to our knees. Just take it a day at a time, or minute by minute on those really rotten days, and be *sure* to take care of yourself - a little TLC for Mom and Dad goes a long way.</p><p></p><p>I think I can understand how (emotionally) it feels like you and husband, as teachers, should be able to send your little guy off to school and have him not have problems, but realistically, teachers aren't exempt from having children who struggle. We have a couple of parents who are teachers on the board right now. His meltdowns do *not* reflect on you as teachers, any more than they do on you as parents (though of course even us non-teacher parents have spent a good amt of time just cringing as we hear the reports of our little darlings' antics of the day). </p><p></p><p>When did you request the evaluation for an IEP? Please remember that once the *request* has been submitted, the school is presumed to be aware that they are potentially dealing with- a student with a disability and the 10-day rule re: suspensions is in place. Since he's now racked up 8 days of suspensions, they've only got 2 more to go this school year before they must hold a manifestation determination hearing. Starting on suspended day 11, it's considered a change of placement and requires a new IEP. Pretty much, I'd say at this point they've guaranteed him an IEP just based on the fact that he has behaviors that are interfering with his ability to receive FAPE in LRE. </p><p></p><p>Personally, with a kiddo so young, I'd fight the suspensions hard. Since the meltdowns are directly related to his "disability", suspending him is not going to be a deterrent. It's like thinking a time out will stop meltdowns. Our kids aren't wired that way. What the suspensions are doing, just in my humble opinion, is setting up a very negative and punitive environment at school for your kiddo. 7-1/2 is just way too young to set that kind of tone. The goal needs to be identifying why he's melting down, looking at positive interventions to hopefully avoid the meltdown, and finding tools he can use to learn to self-regulate (which is a bear of a task for any 7-1/2-year old, much less for a difficult child). It sounds like 1-2-3 is working well for you guys at home - it's imperative you get school staff on board. I'd ask not only for the multidisciplinary evaluation for the IEP, but also for a functional behavioral analysis so that you can get a good behavior management plan in place.</p><p></p><p>It is mortifying at times having an out-of-control kiddo, I know. Just hang tough, get the school to join you guys in a good behavior management plan, and hang in there!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 402399, member: 8"] Cboz - glad you're feeling better. Raising a difficult child (or even a easy child on some days, LOL) can really bring us to our knees. Just take it a day at a time, or minute by minute on those really rotten days, and be *sure* to take care of yourself - a little TLC for Mom and Dad goes a long way. I think I can understand how (emotionally) it feels like you and husband, as teachers, should be able to send your little guy off to school and have him not have problems, but realistically, teachers aren't exempt from having children who struggle. We have a couple of parents who are teachers on the board right now. His meltdowns do *not* reflect on you as teachers, any more than they do on you as parents (though of course even us non-teacher parents have spent a good amt of time just cringing as we hear the reports of our little darlings' antics of the day). When did you request the evaluation for an IEP? Please remember that once the *request* has been submitted, the school is presumed to be aware that they are potentially dealing with- a student with a disability and the 10-day rule re: suspensions is in place. Since he's now racked up 8 days of suspensions, they've only got 2 more to go this school year before they must hold a manifestation determination hearing. Starting on suspended day 11, it's considered a change of placement and requires a new IEP. Pretty much, I'd say at this point they've guaranteed him an IEP just based on the fact that he has behaviors that are interfering with his ability to receive FAPE in LRE. Personally, with a kiddo so young, I'd fight the suspensions hard. Since the meltdowns are directly related to his "disability", suspending him is not going to be a deterrent. It's like thinking a time out will stop meltdowns. Our kids aren't wired that way. What the suspensions are doing, just in my humble opinion, is setting up a very negative and punitive environment at school for your kiddo. 7-1/2 is just way too young to set that kind of tone. The goal needs to be identifying why he's melting down, looking at positive interventions to hopefully avoid the meltdown, and finding tools he can use to learn to self-regulate (which is a bear of a task for any 7-1/2-year old, much less for a difficult child). It sounds like 1-2-3 is working well for you guys at home - it's imperative you get school staff on board. I'd ask not only for the multidisciplinary evaluation for the IEP, but also for a functional behavioral analysis so that you can get a good behavior management plan in place. It is mortifying at times having an out-of-control kiddo, I know. Just hang tough, get the school to join you guys in a good behavior management plan, and hang in there!! [/QUOTE]
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