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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 527565" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I'm with the others as well. My daughter (middle difficult child almost 15) lies and attention seeks too all the time. She is histrionic/hyperchondria with constant ailments. I have to take the wait and see approach to her complaints which does make me feel bad sometimes, depending on what it is as I worry what if this time it's serious. It's a precarious position to be in. She "attempted" cutting as a copycat behavior of her older sister and and other kids at school only I knew this as she is not the type (the way she reacts to something similar painwise). I spoke to her on that occasion and forthright told her I knew it was for attention and that she was going to get the wrong kind of attention for it and not like it. Sure enough, a girl in school who was an actual cutter demanded her to explain now or threatened her to tell the guidance counselor and she'd "get in trouble", which she wouldn't. She did NOT like that one bit! She never did that again and was mad that she got negative attention instead of sympathy or another kind.</p><p></p><p>She complains about vomiting or blood, like yours as well from time to time. Turns out the vomiting was all fake and the blood wasn't blood at all but discoloration from food she had ate (like tomatoes in one case another food in another) only as a child she had no concept that food can do strange things like this. She also has complained of her "hair coming out". Yes her hair was coming out but no more then anyone else's can do when hair goes through a heavy shed stage, she just happen to notice it and she also has a thick head of hair.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if anything I said helped any or gave you food for thought but you are certainly not a terrible mother and I definitely know where you are coming from. I live this every single day with mine. I just keep reinforcing to her that sometime something is going to really be wrong and I won't be able to know for sure to believe her. by the way, she pulls this with the school personnel as well but they have learned her MO too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 527565, member: 455"] I'm with the others as well. My daughter (middle difficult child almost 15) lies and attention seeks too all the time. She is histrionic/hyperchondria with constant ailments. I have to take the wait and see approach to her complaints which does make me feel bad sometimes, depending on what it is as I worry what if this time it's serious. It's a precarious position to be in. She "attempted" cutting as a copycat behavior of her older sister and and other kids at school only I knew this as she is not the type (the way she reacts to something similar painwise). I spoke to her on that occasion and forthright told her I knew it was for attention and that she was going to get the wrong kind of attention for it and not like it. Sure enough, a girl in school who was an actual cutter demanded her to explain now or threatened her to tell the guidance counselor and she'd "get in trouble", which she wouldn't. She did NOT like that one bit! She never did that again and was mad that she got negative attention instead of sympathy or another kind. She complains about vomiting or blood, like yours as well from time to time. Turns out the vomiting was all fake and the blood wasn't blood at all but discoloration from food she had ate (like tomatoes in one case another food in another) only as a child she had no concept that food can do strange things like this. She also has complained of her "hair coming out". Yes her hair was coming out but no more then anyone else's can do when hair goes through a heavy shed stage, she just happen to notice it and she also has a thick head of hair. I don't know if anything I said helped any or gave you food for thought but you are certainly not a terrible mother and I definitely know where you are coming from. I live this every single day with mine. I just keep reinforcing to her that sometime something is going to really be wrong and I won't be able to know for sure to believe her. by the way, she pulls this with the school personnel as well but they have learned her MO too. [/QUOTE]
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