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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 321311" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I don't think it is being too sensitive. Sounds like you have practiced healthy detachment over the years. That doesnt' mean that aren't moments in times where it just grates on you, far from it. </p><p></p><p>I do understand. This is much like some in my family at times. I have 2 cousins I really enjoy, but don't know that well. One lives in the US and the other in the UK (brother and sister). We see them when they are in town visiting their mother. Now, that over the years has ranged from hearing about the visit AFTER they'd gone home already. HUH? Well its not like they plan their visits on short notice. These were long planned visits. Hmm. Then we have the visits where we know one or both are coming to town and no plans get made. Then comes that call: Hey, tomorrow. All of us. The whole family. To save a burden of one person cooking a meal lets do a potluck! Well, myself, my brother and my cousin who lives local, all have kids. There are spouses. Jobs. Kids activities and sports. It isn't that easy. Other times its a well planned visit. If we are given ample notice, we are expected to attend. Period. If its a restaurant, we are expected to afford it. Well a upscale restaurant for my family of 4 isn't always in budget, in fact rarely. Even with notice. Saving for a meal out for 4 at a fancy place isn't always a priority at , say, CHRISTMAS time. </p><p></p><p>Now, I enjoy the get togethers. I love spending time with them. But it sometimes isn't about what works for everybody or even majority. it has a level of self absortion that can drive me batty. </p><p></p><p>I really advocate NOT living near family as adults <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 321311, member: 4264"] I don't think it is being too sensitive. Sounds like you have practiced healthy detachment over the years. That doesnt' mean that aren't moments in times where it just grates on you, far from it. I do understand. This is much like some in my family at times. I have 2 cousins I really enjoy, but don't know that well. One lives in the US and the other in the UK (brother and sister). We see them when they are in town visiting their mother. Now, that over the years has ranged from hearing about the visit AFTER they'd gone home already. HUH? Well its not like they plan their visits on short notice. These were long planned visits. Hmm. Then we have the visits where we know one or both are coming to town and no plans get made. Then comes that call: Hey, tomorrow. All of us. The whole family. To save a burden of one person cooking a meal lets do a potluck! Well, myself, my brother and my cousin who lives local, all have kids. There are spouses. Jobs. Kids activities and sports. It isn't that easy. Other times its a well planned visit. If we are given ample notice, we are expected to attend. Period. If its a restaurant, we are expected to afford it. Well a upscale restaurant for my family of 4 isn't always in budget, in fact rarely. Even with notice. Saving for a meal out for 4 at a fancy place isn't always a priority at , say, CHRISTMAS time. Now, I enjoy the get togethers. I love spending time with them. But it sometimes isn't about what works for everybody or even majority. it has a level of self absortion that can drive me batty. I really advocate NOT living near family as adults ;) [/QUOTE]
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