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<blockquote data-quote="Trpl" data-source="post: 548036" data-attributes="member: 15097"><p>Ok the background story on the guardian (TG) and how she came to have two of my kids. </p><p>TG, my sister, my brother, my husband, her husband and I all went to school together. We grew up in the same neighborhood. We were friends. We lost contact during high school and found each other again through Facebook about 6 years ago. </p><p> husband and I have been together for almost 13 years now. The first eight of them were pretty rocky. In the ninth year we had separated and were filing for divorce. At that time, my options were limited as I didn't have any skills. So, my intention was to join the military to take care of myself and my children. </p><p>In order to join though, I could only have three dependents, one of which would be husband as we were still married at that time. </p><p>Over the last couple of years before that, TG had mentioned many times how respectful and well behaved my kids were and that they could come live with her anytime. It was all said jokingly, but when the military thing came about, I asked her seriously if she would take guardianship of two of them so I could join and help take care of them. </p><p>The agreement we had was that they would live with her as long as their grades were good and they weren't in trouble until they graduated high school. I do not pay her. If they need something, she tells me and I buy it for them and take it up there to them when I visit or buy it for them while they are down here visiting. </p><p>She claims them on her taxes and gets the refund from that. </p><p>She has two other children who seem well behaved and well mannered. We got together many, many times before all of this came about. We seemed to have the same ideals and morals whenever we talked about raising our kids. I would never have considered letting her keep them otherwise. </p><p>I don't know if she just doesn't understand that this is serious because she's not known difficult child his whole life, or if she really believes this is just a phase and he'll grow out of it. </p><p>I have to wonder, if she thinks he'll grow out of it, at what point does it hit her that it's not a phase? After he's got a STD or a kid? After he's gone to jail for drunk driving, killing someone in the process? I just don't understand the nieveity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Trpl, post: 548036, member: 15097"] Ok the background story on the guardian (TG) and how she came to have two of my kids. TG, my sister, my brother, my husband, her husband and I all went to school together. We grew up in the same neighborhood. We were friends. We lost contact during high school and found each other again through Facebook about 6 years ago. husband and I have been together for almost 13 years now. The first eight of them were pretty rocky. In the ninth year we had separated and were filing for divorce. At that time, my options were limited as I didn't have any skills. So, my intention was to join the military to take care of myself and my children. In order to join though, I could only have three dependents, one of which would be husband as we were still married at that time. Over the last couple of years before that, TG had mentioned many times how respectful and well behaved my kids were and that they could come live with her anytime. It was all said jokingly, but when the military thing came about, I asked her seriously if she would take guardianship of two of them so I could join and help take care of them. The agreement we had was that they would live with her as long as their grades were good and they weren't in trouble until they graduated high school. I do not pay her. If they need something, she tells me and I buy it for them and take it up there to them when I visit or buy it for them while they are down here visiting. She claims them on her taxes and gets the refund from that. She has two other children who seem well behaved and well mannered. We got together many, many times before all of this came about. We seemed to have the same ideals and morals whenever we talked about raising our kids. I would never have considered letting her keep them otherwise. I don't know if she just doesn't understand that this is serious because she's not known difficult child his whole life, or if she really believes this is just a phase and he'll grow out of it. I have to wonder, if she thinks he'll grow out of it, at what point does it hit her that it's not a phase? After he's got a STD or a kid? After he's gone to jail for drunk driving, killing someone in the process? I just don't understand the nieveity. [/QUOTE]
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