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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 436810" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You're nicer than me. I would have forced him to stay home. Period. Even if hub was the coach. Even if the other kids didn't want him to stay home. It's one thing if a child is TRYING to do well and doesn't. That gets a pass from me. But verbal abuse or physical abuse is automatically a loss of privileges in our home. Not only would he have stayed home from baseball, but his electronics would have been gone for at least a week. in my opinion, a parent does "right" by his kid if he/she lets him know what is and is not acceptable. I don't think letting even a difficult child do whatever he wants to do or say whatever he wants to say is doing our best as a parent. The real world will not accept the behavior, even if we do.</p><p></p><p>I have tried both, and I find that for us losing privileges is effective. I don't know if it works with all kids, but it has worked really well with mine. </p><p></p><p>In the meantime, in my opinion this child badly needs to see a neuropsychologist and get treatment. I've raised five kids, and a ten year old who acts like that needs help or else teenagerhood and all it's problems are looming in front of him. I wouldn't wait. I also wouldn't allow him to get away with mouthing off to me like he did.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you had to go through this. Keep us posted.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 436810, member: 1550"] You're nicer than me. I would have forced him to stay home. Period. Even if hub was the coach. Even if the other kids didn't want him to stay home. It's one thing if a child is TRYING to do well and doesn't. That gets a pass from me. But verbal abuse or physical abuse is automatically a loss of privileges in our home. Not only would he have stayed home from baseball, but his electronics would have been gone for at least a week. in my opinion, a parent does "right" by his kid if he/she lets him know what is and is not acceptable. I don't think letting even a difficult child do whatever he wants to do or say whatever he wants to say is doing our best as a parent. The real world will not accept the behavior, even if we do. I have tried both, and I find that for us losing privileges is effective. I don't know if it works with all kids, but it has worked really well with mine. In the meantime, in my opinion this child badly needs to see a neuropsychologist and get treatment. I've raised five kids, and a ten year old who acts like that needs help or else teenagerhood and all it's problems are looming in front of him. I wouldn't wait. I also wouldn't allow him to get away with mouthing off to me like he did. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Keep us posted. Hugs!!! [/QUOTE]
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