Well, of course that is not a question you can have an answer to. But it is something I'm thinking right now. After just having shaken excess adrenalin out of me because of difficult child getting himself lost, he gave me new adrenalin rush. He was diagnosed with PTSD at summer. He is applying for funding for intensive psychotherapy (which he actually already started, but we hope we get public funding to cover the cost) and he needed psychiatrist's recommendation after going through certain 'evaluation period' for being a good candidate for therapy. Funding is for people, who are currently unable to work or study or are in risk to end up unable to do so due mental health reasons and it is for rehab purpose meaning that it should be likely that therapy would restore ability to work or study or prevent a loss of it. I have been sceptic for difficult child getting the money. What I have researched it seems people successfully applying have been in quite a bad shape. psychiatrist however things difficult child has a chance. difficult child has now done the evaluation period and psychiatrist wrote her recommendations. difficult child showed me the letter and it was a tough read. And that caused me question my view of my son. I don't say the letter was wrong, there was some stuff I didn't know (worst being that difficult child has had suicidal ideation quite a lot at certain times of his life and the severity and frequency of his dissociative symptoms), but it does describe my son well. I'm just shocked how serious his situation sounds when it is written down like that. I do know that psychiatrist has played up some aspects of my difficult child's situation, because she wants him to get the funding, but still I have difficulties to see my son anywhere near as disabled than this letter would suggest. When I look at him, I see so much strengths, coping ability, high-functioning and resilience I really struggle to see him so troubled as this letter describes him. I'm not saying he doesn't have issues, he certainly does, but being in so bad shape? Just very difficult for me to comprehend. And if he really is that ill, how much can I demand or expect from him? Or others? Is he totally over his head in his life even though he seems to be coping rather well? Have you any experience on getting your vision clouded, to one direction or the other, when it comes to your difficult children?