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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 565496" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>LMS, your anxiety is certainly warranted................past behavior often predicts future behavior.............except you've both had breaks and you know what your boundaries are now.............perhaps writing exactly what you just wrote in your post as a contract for your returning difficult child.........write down all your expectations, everything you need to have so that you are comfortable, safe, healthy and satisfied........all of it, he can't be messy in your home, he has to be sober.....respectful,...........if you are driving him to work, what can he do to help you? Will he be contributing to the household with rent? How will he help you and husband around the house? This is YOUR home, you are giving him a wonderful opportunity and you will need to have strong, unbreakable boundaries in place. You can do it as long as you remain true to yourself and don't allow difficult child to go over any of your boundaries...............get as much support as you can, and make your fears known so that others can help you...........if it feels right, write a contract out, have him read it, discuss it and have him sign it..............then what you want will be absolutely clear so there will be no loopholes.......</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you, I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now as it's so close. I think you've gotten your resolve to stay healthy under control, any one of us would feel some anxiety as it's the unknown. You always have us here to support you and your groups too, keep yourself well supported as you embark on this new adventure. Lots of gentle hugs for you................prayers too..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 565496, member: 13542"] LMS, your anxiety is certainly warranted................past behavior often predicts future behavior.............except you've both had breaks and you know what your boundaries are now.............perhaps writing exactly what you just wrote in your post as a contract for your returning difficult child.........write down all your expectations, everything you need to have so that you are comfortable, safe, healthy and satisfied........all of it, he can't be messy in your home, he has to be sober.....respectful,...........if you are driving him to work, what can he do to help you? Will he be contributing to the household with rent? How will he help you and husband around the house? This is YOUR home, you are giving him a wonderful opportunity and you will need to have strong, unbreakable boundaries in place. You can do it as long as you remain true to yourself and don't allow difficult child to go over any of your boundaries...............get as much support as you can, and make your fears known so that others can help you...........if it feels right, write a contract out, have him read it, discuss it and have him sign it..............then what you want will be absolutely clear so there will be no loopholes....... My heart goes out to you, I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now as it's so close. I think you've gotten your resolve to stay healthy under control, any one of us would feel some anxiety as it's the unknown. You always have us here to support you and your groups too, keep yourself well supported as you embark on this new adventure. Lots of gentle hugs for you................prayers too.......... [/QUOTE]
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