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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 565576" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>As you know I am hoping and praying that this transition goes well. I've been wondering if it would help you to put in writing the rules for staying at your home....like a contract that difficult child as well as you and husband sign. Perhaps having the boundaries in writing would ease some of the "what if" thoughts and limit the conversations that could add stress.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I know how sensitive #2 has always been and how strong your natural instincts are to support him. on the other hand you really can not take responsibility for his choices now if he is ever going to feel like a man and a Dad. For example, what are the consequences if he "doesn't feel well" and it's time to leave for work? What if he is with SO and "loses track of time and wants you to come quickly and pick him up"? Maybe this weekend you should list all the possible scenarios and then figure out before he gets home what you can do or are willing to do "if" they arise. Perhaps confronting your hidden fears in writing (and preferably in agreement with your husband) will give you a sense of self protection and empowerment.</p><p></p><p>Lordy I sure hope for the best but believe in preparing for the worst. I find that dealing with the unexpected increases anxiety and stress more than preplanning. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 565576, member: 35"] As you know I am hoping and praying that this transition goes well. I've been wondering if it would help you to put in writing the rules for staying at your home....like a contract that difficult child as well as you and husband sign. Perhaps having the boundaries in writing would ease some of the "what if" thoughts and limit the conversations that could add stress. Yes, I know how sensitive #2 has always been and how strong your natural instincts are to support him. on the other hand you really can not take responsibility for his choices now if he is ever going to feel like a man and a Dad. For example, what are the consequences if he "doesn't feel well" and it's time to leave for work? What if he is with SO and "loses track of time and wants you to come quickly and pick him up"? Maybe this weekend you should list all the possible scenarios and then figure out before he gets home what you can do or are willing to do "if" they arise. Perhaps confronting your hidden fears in writing (and preferably in agreement with your husband) will give you a sense of self protection and empowerment. Lordy I sure hope for the best but believe in preparing for the worst. I find that dealing with the unexpected increases anxiety and stress more than preplanning. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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