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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 413118" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>klmno don't feel bad this is my longest standing relationship in my life!! LOL</p><p> </p><p>thanks guys i posted this then emailed Star and said hmm get someone to take that down lol enough of my drama <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>well communicating via text is nota good thing for sure. messages get misunderstood etc. we finally spoke at length last night till 5 a.m. yup omg long! it isnt' or wasn't to the extent i wrote in original thread. yet he does talk to her on occassion he said. all cards were on table last night for once there was honesty i sensed it. he even sat with-phone showing me all calls and texts past mos. etc. it is her she's a bit off she has problems we all do i guess one way or another right? </p><p> </p><p>i think wha'Tourette's Syndrome happened here is i push and push and push i look to control this relationship. He clearly has detatchment issues, states openly he has no idea why when she corners him he anti';s up. he said in his own words its' easier, she gets what she wants then leaves me alone and i don't have to deal anymore. You it's different, i have to deal with-you everyday on an ongoing basis. if i tell you i talked to her you blow it out of porportion, blow up, tell me i'm sick etc. to still answer to her. he said it's too much of a beating so yea this way is easier. i ask him all the time you talk to her, etc. i think the question is also why am i so insecure about this relationship? why am i soo needy of his complete and utter attention? she is gay let's face it they wont' be back together anytime soon. he doesnt' see her, lunch with her etc. not making light of what he did at all. he totally screwed up, yet i also keep looking to him to "fix" him, i think i'd better start asking questions like ok jen why do "you" keep doing this?</p><p> </p><p>than he went on to say i married you and you have no time for me in your world. difficult child's screaming each night when trying to sleep. He said i knew what i was getting into before we got married, yet it's gotten so much worse, and wha'Tourette's Syndrome the point of getting married if each night i come home your frustrated, trying to ignore her endless screaming, your tired dont' want to spend time with me. He said i work likea dog and for what? He said you made me promises too that you didnt' keep and hurt me. so yea typical you hurt me, i hurt you and yes now we have total chaos amongst us.</p><p> </p><p>sad thing is somewhere along the line i think my feelings changed somewhat for him. not sure why. i have no clue what i'm going to do. i'm so into easy child's upcoming graduation now, she just found her dress, meeting at her school to make sure she graduates, still working with-her, working with difficult child and probably transitioning her back into the school building because she is driving me nuts and is pushing for it so badly i can't get her off of me. so we'll see. today i'm going to think positive fora change stop being negative i keep drawing negativity to me that way and go clean up our messy yard since spring has officially sprung now.</p><p> </p><p>funny thing is we were really in a good place upon marrying, had our issues prior to it, sought counseling got clear and on our wedding day were both really happy. that was just 8 short mos. ago this week. what's changed so drastically? i think part of it is he's needing of me bigtime. we got married and returned from a great fun honeymoon and two weeks later i was admitting difficult child into hospital approx. and than gone in a hotel in new jersey for two weeks, than onto next round of doctor's etc. maybe had that not happened things would of turned out differently i dont' know....</p><p> </p><p>love you guys by the way. youra great filler for a therapy session and FREE <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 413118, member: 4514"] klmno don't feel bad this is my longest standing relationship in my life!! LOL thanks guys i posted this then emailed Star and said hmm get someone to take that down lol enough of my drama :) well communicating via text is nota good thing for sure. messages get misunderstood etc. we finally spoke at length last night till 5 a.m. yup omg long! it isnt' or wasn't to the extent i wrote in original thread. yet he does talk to her on occassion he said. all cards were on table last night for once there was honesty i sensed it. he even sat with-phone showing me all calls and texts past mos. etc. it is her she's a bit off she has problems we all do i guess one way or another right? i think wha'Tourette's Syndrome happened here is i push and push and push i look to control this relationship. He clearly has detatchment issues, states openly he has no idea why when she corners him he anti';s up. he said in his own words its' easier, she gets what she wants then leaves me alone and i don't have to deal anymore. You it's different, i have to deal with-you everyday on an ongoing basis. if i tell you i talked to her you blow it out of porportion, blow up, tell me i'm sick etc. to still answer to her. he said it's too much of a beating so yea this way is easier. i ask him all the time you talk to her, etc. i think the question is also why am i so insecure about this relationship? why am i soo needy of his complete and utter attention? she is gay let's face it they wont' be back together anytime soon. he doesnt' see her, lunch with her etc. not making light of what he did at all. he totally screwed up, yet i also keep looking to him to "fix" him, i think i'd better start asking questions like ok jen why do "you" keep doing this? than he went on to say i married you and you have no time for me in your world. difficult child's screaming each night when trying to sleep. He said i knew what i was getting into before we got married, yet it's gotten so much worse, and wha'Tourette's Syndrome the point of getting married if each night i come home your frustrated, trying to ignore her endless screaming, your tired dont' want to spend time with me. He said i work likea dog and for what? He said you made me promises too that you didnt' keep and hurt me. so yea typical you hurt me, i hurt you and yes now we have total chaos amongst us. sad thing is somewhere along the line i think my feelings changed somewhat for him. not sure why. i have no clue what i'm going to do. i'm so into easy child's upcoming graduation now, she just found her dress, meeting at her school to make sure she graduates, still working with-her, working with difficult child and probably transitioning her back into the school building because she is driving me nuts and is pushing for it so badly i can't get her off of me. so we'll see. today i'm going to think positive fora change stop being negative i keep drawing negativity to me that way and go clean up our messy yard since spring has officially sprung now. funny thing is we were really in a good place upon marrying, had our issues prior to it, sought counseling got clear and on our wedding day were both really happy. that was just 8 short mos. ago this week. what's changed so drastically? i think part of it is he's needing of me bigtime. we got married and returned from a great fun honeymoon and two weeks later i was admitting difficult child into hospital approx. and than gone in a hotel in new jersey for two weeks, than onto next round of doctor's etc. maybe had that not happened things would of turned out differently i dont' know.... love you guys by the way. youra great filler for a therapy session and FREE :) [/QUOTE]
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