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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 129980" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Yes, my dtr was on an IEP for emotional problems and she was very oppositional. She was drinking, smoking cigarettes, smoking pot, skipping school, stealing from family members, going out and staying out without us knowing where she was, etc. This all started in middle school and continued into high school. We sent her to residential treatment when she was finishing 9th grade--she wasn't even attending school by then, would just go on the bus and hang out downtown. She did very well at her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but when she returned home she was up to the same old tricks and ended up being court ordered to a rehab (she was 17 by this time). She left the rehab early, after doing well there and getting her GED, and then she moved out of our home to live with her new boyfriend (by now she was about 18). She still continued her wild lifestyle and we got drawn in a few times and tried to help her to no avail. I told her "no more", we would not help at all, and how disappointed I was in her. By now she was nearly 19 years old and for some reason she decided to take responsibility for her life. She got a job and no longer tried to get money from us and became a very nice person to be around. She recently moved across the country and is trying to act like a responsible adult--the toxic boyfriend is out of the picture now and she truly seems to want to live like a "normal" adult.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure others will be along with their stories. I felt pretty hopeless about her many times, especially after spending tons of money for the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and having her relapse and be worse than ever! I had to keep reminding myself that at least she had the tools and that since she was able to be successful in her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) she could be successful in life too if she chose to be. That is the whole key here--she had to want it for herself and in our case she had to be living away from us so we weren't there for her to rebel against. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 129980, member: 3208"] Yes, my dtr was on an IEP for emotional problems and she was very oppositional. She was drinking, smoking cigarettes, smoking pot, skipping school, stealing from family members, going out and staying out without us knowing where she was, etc. This all started in middle school and continued into high school. We sent her to residential treatment when she was finishing 9th grade--she wasn't even attending school by then, would just go on the bus and hang out downtown. She did very well at her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but when she returned home she was up to the same old tricks and ended up being court ordered to a rehab (she was 17 by this time). She left the rehab early, after doing well there and getting her GED, and then she moved out of our home to live with her new boyfriend (by now she was about 18). She still continued her wild lifestyle and we got drawn in a few times and tried to help her to no avail. I told her "no more", we would not help at all, and how disappointed I was in her. By now she was nearly 19 years old and for some reason she decided to take responsibility for her life. She got a job and no longer tried to get money from us and became a very nice person to be around. She recently moved across the country and is trying to act like a responsible adult--the toxic boyfriend is out of the picture now and she truly seems to want to live like a "normal" adult. I'm sure others will be along with their stories. I felt pretty hopeless about her many times, especially after spending tons of money for the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and having her relapse and be worse than ever! I had to keep reminding myself that at least she had the tools and that since she was able to be successful in her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) she could be successful in life too if she chose to be. That is the whole key here--she had to want it for herself and in our case she had to be living away from us so we weren't there for her to rebel against. Hang in there! Jane [/QUOTE]
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