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Andre is going to court on Tuesday
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 155203" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/clubbing.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":clubbing:" title="clubbing :clubbing:" data-shortname=":clubbing:" /><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: purple">OBEY</span> <span style="color: blue">THE</span> <span style="color: darkorange">BRAIN</span></span><span style="color: darkorange"> but find a way to nurture your Mom heart without having the brain kick your arse. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">I know EXACTLY how you feel. And maybe it would be different if for their entire lives we haven't had to advocate for them with the rest of the world to have them get services they need because they really are different. Yet when they get older we're told to back off and obey the brain. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">It's a trip to hell for sure. Paula - Andre will ALWAYS be your son, your baby and the part of you that keeps that alive remembers his sweet nature and what you know deep down inside he is. The part that at this point in his life you need to let go of isn't fair, and it leaves us with a huge hole. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">I saw a man the other day - he was 40 years old and looked to be about late 50's early 60's. He was homeless, old shoes, old clothes, tattered....no hair cut, bad teeth and somewhat oblivious to his surroundings. I asked him how he was doing and he said "I'm doing it." I asked him if he had a place to go and he replied "Nope My Momma done kicked me out da house." I asked him "What did she do that for?" and he said "I guess she don't feel like she has to take care of me no more." I kinda chuckled and said "Well how old ARE you?" and he said proudly "FORTY." I asked if he had a job, place to go, etc. He answered nope to every question - then said "I guess I'm on my own finally." </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">I didn't know whether to hand him a $5.00 for cigarettes and a soda or just walk away and keep him too in my prayers, but what struck me as I was walking away was his ability to bounce RIGHT into the next conversation with a young man and not let others see he was affected or wasn't affected at ALL due to his level of intelligence. Walking away I felt a lump in my throat and made a mad dash for the door - "THAT (inhale and bite lip) could be Dude someday." </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">So I know what you mean when the Mommy part says "HE's my baby, homeless, being charged as an adult (at 18 yes), and worried sick second guessing all you've done up to now. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">You did the best job you could. </span></p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">Ultimately Andre is responsible for his own person. </span></p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">It's not like you haven't tried to help him 100 times. </span></p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">And even being your baby doesn't give him a get outta jail free card - despite his ability to get along in the world. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">YOU HAVE BEEN A TERRIFIC MOM - don't doubt that ever. EVER! </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">Andre is a Terrific Kid - he just has terrific problems that make him less than desirable to the rest of the world at times. Know that when he is TIRED of being like he is - he'll make a change and he will HAVE to do it - without his mom. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">At that thought I agree - It inhales violently to be the Mom. Mostly because I really would join you and do what made me feel better - but by looking at other's examples and wisdom here that have been where you are and know what you are going through and what you yet are to endure - be wise and obey the brain. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">Hugs - Understanding - Love - Patience - Strength - Wisdom - and more hugs</span></p><p><span style="color: #ff8c00">Star</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 155203, member: 4964"] :clubbing:[SIZE=5][COLOR=purple]OBEY[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]THE[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkorange]BRAIN[/COLOR][/SIZE][COLOR=darkorange] but find a way to nurture your Mom heart without having the brain kick your arse. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]I know EXACTLY how you feel. And maybe it would be different if for their entire lives we haven't had to advocate for them with the rest of the world to have them get services they need because they really are different. Yet when they get older we're told to back off and obey the brain. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]It's a trip to hell for sure. Paula - Andre will ALWAYS be your son, your baby and the part of you that keeps that alive remembers his sweet nature and what you know deep down inside he is. The part that at this point in his life you need to let go of isn't fair, and it leaves us with a huge hole. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]I saw a man the other day - he was 40 years old and looked to be about late 50's early 60's. He was homeless, old shoes, old clothes, tattered....no hair cut, bad teeth and somewhat oblivious to his surroundings. I asked him how he was doing and he said "I'm doing it." I asked him if he had a place to go and he replied "Nope My Momma done kicked me out da house." I asked him "What did she do that for?" and he said "I guess she don't feel like she has to take care of me no more." I kinda chuckled and said "Well how old ARE you?" and he said proudly "FORTY." I asked if he had a job, place to go, etc. He answered nope to every question - then said "I guess I'm on my own finally." [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]I didn't know whether to hand him a $5.00 for cigarettes and a soda or just walk away and keep him too in my prayers, but what struck me as I was walking away was his ability to bounce RIGHT into the next conversation with a young man and not let others see he was affected or wasn't affected at ALL due to his level of intelligence. Walking away I felt a lump in my throat and made a mad dash for the door - "THAT (inhale and bite lip) could be Dude someday." [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]So I know what you mean when the Mommy part says "HE's my baby, homeless, being charged as an adult (at 18 yes), and worried sick second guessing all you've done up to now. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]You did the best job you could. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]Ultimately Andre is responsible for his own person. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]It's not like you haven't tried to help him 100 times. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]And even being your baby doesn't give him a get outta jail free card - despite his ability to get along in the world. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]YOU HAVE BEEN A TERRIFIC MOM - don't doubt that ever. EVER! [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]Andre is a Terrific Kid - he just has terrific problems that make him less than desirable to the rest of the world at times. Know that when he is TIRED of being like he is - he'll make a change and he will HAVE to do it - without his mom. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]At that thought I agree - It inhales violently to be the Mom. Mostly because I really would join you and do what made me feel better - but by looking at other's examples and wisdom here that have been where you are and know what you are going through and what you yet are to endure - be wise and obey the brain. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]Hugs - Understanding - Love - Patience - Strength - Wisdom - and more hugs[/COLOR] [COLOR=#ff8c00]Star[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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