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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 406966" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Heather--</p><p> </p><p>I have been thinking about you a lot...</p><p> </p><p>Angry or no - off medications/on medications - whatever....I think something needs to be done to remove you, Mom, from the equation. Right now, you are the EVERYTHING - the problem, the stress relief, the punching bag, the comfort zone, etc.</p><p> </p><p>It's not fair to you, of course - but it's also not fair to difficult child. If she can continue to focus on you, there is no incentive for her to focus on herself. If Mom's the problem, then difficult child does not have to solve anything. If MOM will do it, difficult child does not have to. If there's an obstacle, Mom can remove it. If Mom does not do it, remove it or solve it - then Mom's the problem again....and round and round and round in a vicious circle.</p><p> </p><p>Is there any sort of respite available to you at all? Even if difficult child could go stay at a friend or relatives house for a little while, it might help. (Gosh, at this point, it couldn't hurt!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 406966, member: 6546"] Heather-- I have been thinking about you a lot... Angry or no - off medications/on medications - whatever....I think something needs to be done to remove you, Mom, from the equation. Right now, you are the EVERYTHING - the problem, the stress relief, the punching bag, the comfort zone, etc. It's not fair to you, of course - but it's also not fair to difficult child. If she can continue to focus on you, there is no incentive for her to focus on herself. If Mom's the problem, then difficult child does not have to solve anything. If MOM will do it, difficult child does not have to. If there's an obstacle, Mom can remove it. If Mom does not do it, remove it or solve it - then Mom's the problem again....and round and round and round in a vicious circle. Is there any sort of respite available to you at all? Even if difficult child could go stay at a friend or relatives house for a little while, it might help. (Gosh, at this point, it couldn't hurt!) [/QUOTE]
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