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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 427607" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>If you can stand it and if it offers, I would accept the group home option. Your other kids need the respite and so do you. The other kids need to know what is normal, and that this behaviour is not acceptable. otherwise the problems will only get worse as he gets older, then ramp up when you have the other kids following through with learned bad behaviour.</p><p></p><p>Does he have a diagnosis? Because this behaviour is not normal and is not acceptable. A lot of the violence you describe, could be laid at the door of a raging child. I wouldn't be too fussed about the history of knives etc, so much as the general history of raging and violence. As the child learns to find other ways to cope with frustration, raging tends to ease. The dangerous child is one who will coldly, calculatedly pick up a knife and threaten someone with it. Not simply as a rage response, but in a determined effort to get their own way in something.</p><p></p><p>But a lot of the other things you describe certainly sound in desperate need of treatment. Whatever strategies are suggested to try at home, need to be strategies that can actually be implemented by you and not some therapist throwing you in the deep end and setting yuo up for failure.</p><p></p><p>Handing him over to someone else, to a group environment where other people are stepping up to actually work with him in practical ways - it could be just what he needs, as well as what you need.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 427607, member: 1991"] If you can stand it and if it offers, I would accept the group home option. Your other kids need the respite and so do you. The other kids need to know what is normal, and that this behaviour is not acceptable. otherwise the problems will only get worse as he gets older, then ramp up when you have the other kids following through with learned bad behaviour. Does he have a diagnosis? Because this behaviour is not normal and is not acceptable. A lot of the violence you describe, could be laid at the door of a raging child. I wouldn't be too fussed about the history of knives etc, so much as the general history of raging and violence. As the child learns to find other ways to cope with frustration, raging tends to ease. The dangerous child is one who will coldly, calculatedly pick up a knife and threaten someone with it. Not simply as a rage response, but in a determined effort to get their own way in something. But a lot of the other things you describe certainly sound in desperate need of treatment. Whatever strategies are suggested to try at home, need to be strategies that can actually be implemented by you and not some therapist throwing you in the deep end and setting yuo up for failure. Handing him over to someone else, to a group environment where other people are stepping up to actually work with him in practical ways - it could be just what he needs, as well as what you need. Marg [/QUOTE]
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