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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 427835" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am also thinking of attachment problems and reactive attachment disorder. I hope this is NOT the case because it is a very hard diagnosis to have and to share a home with. I think if you can get the group home therapy it might be a good thing. Your other children need to be a factor in this decision also. It is entirely possible that he is doing things to the other kdis that you cannot see, esp as he has been a bully at school. My son terrorized my daughter at night after we were in bed. He wasreally good at sneaking aorund and at getting her not to tell. He made awful threats and she believed them. After he was in a phsop for several months hef inally showed them a rage and then made a list of all the things he had done to his sister. It was terrifying and took both sides of a piece of paper. NOT paragraph form, just lists of what he had done. Written bigger than if it was lined paper, but still horrifying and numerous. ALL of my kids have had a lot of therapy before and after then.</p><p></p><p>You need to get ALL of your kids into therapy. If you don't want to do the group home right now, have the in home therapists come as often as possible. Timerlady has more experience with that than many of us, and is right that they will see things that they won't ever see in an office visit. I am sorry that you all have to cope with this.</p><p></p><p>Be SURE to have him checked for sensory integration disorder by an Occupational Therapist (OT). Schools have OTs but usually they only look for how Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) will impact school. Private Occupational Therapist (OT)'s tend to be much more thorough. Sensory issues/Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) can cause all sorts of problems that you wouldn't think they would cause. The therapy can be very very helpful.</p><p></p><p>It would be an awesome thing to create a Parent Report for each child. Esp difficult child, but the others will likely have probls because him so one for each of them would also be helpful. This is a document that you create and keep in a 3 ring binder. Years ago some of the warrior moms here created the outline and it had helped many of us. It keeps everything in one place where you can find it - likes, dislikes, development, mood journals, doctor visits, what you have tried and what the results were, who you have seen and what they did and how well it did or didn't work. It has to be updated frequently but it will really help you get a handle on things. The link in my signature will take you to the thread in the archives that describes it and has the outline. If you already have something similr, this can help you add anything that you may have forgotten.</p><p></p><p>Most of all, stick around. We are not just a community here - we are a real family. We truly care about each other and will do all we can to help. OF course we cannot diagnose, but we have a lot of experience and info and can help give you ideas of what it might or might not be and what may or may not help. with-o this forum I do NOT think my Wiz would be in college, with straight A's, no police record and be a happy, fairly well adjusted kid. He would be in prison or dead because he killed himself or one of us. NOt exaggerating - that is where he was headed and the help and support here gave me the strength and resourcefulness and info to change all of that. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to our family! Happy to meet you but sorry you needed to find us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 427835, member: 1233"] I am also thinking of attachment problems and reactive attachment disorder. I hope this is NOT the case because it is a very hard diagnosis to have and to share a home with. I think if you can get the group home therapy it might be a good thing. Your other children need to be a factor in this decision also. It is entirely possible that he is doing things to the other kdis that you cannot see, esp as he has been a bully at school. My son terrorized my daughter at night after we were in bed. He wasreally good at sneaking aorund and at getting her not to tell. He made awful threats and she believed them. After he was in a phsop for several months hef inally showed them a rage and then made a list of all the things he had done to his sister. It was terrifying and took both sides of a piece of paper. NOT paragraph form, just lists of what he had done. Written bigger than if it was lined paper, but still horrifying and numerous. ALL of my kids have had a lot of therapy before and after then. You need to get ALL of your kids into therapy. If you don't want to do the group home right now, have the in home therapists come as often as possible. Timerlady has more experience with that than many of us, and is right that they will see things that they won't ever see in an office visit. I am sorry that you all have to cope with this. Be SURE to have him checked for sensory integration disorder by an Occupational Therapist (OT). Schools have OTs but usually they only look for how Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) will impact school. Private Occupational Therapist (OT)'s tend to be much more thorough. Sensory issues/Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) can cause all sorts of problems that you wouldn't think they would cause. The therapy can be very very helpful. It would be an awesome thing to create a Parent Report for each child. Esp difficult child, but the others will likely have probls because him so one for each of them would also be helpful. This is a document that you create and keep in a 3 ring binder. Years ago some of the warrior moms here created the outline and it had helped many of us. It keeps everything in one place where you can find it - likes, dislikes, development, mood journals, doctor visits, what you have tried and what the results were, who you have seen and what they did and how well it did or didn't work. It has to be updated frequently but it will really help you get a handle on things. The link in my signature will take you to the thread in the archives that describes it and has the outline. If you already have something similr, this can help you add anything that you may have forgotten. Most of all, stick around. We are not just a community here - we are a real family. We truly care about each other and will do all we can to help. OF course we cannot diagnose, but we have a lot of experience and info and can help give you ideas of what it might or might not be and what may or may not help. with-o this forum I do NOT think my Wiz would be in college, with straight A's, no police record and be a happy, fairly well adjusted kid. He would be in prison or dead because he killed himself or one of us. NOt exaggerating - that is where he was headed and the help and support here gave me the strength and resourcefulness and info to change all of that. Welcome to our family! Happy to meet you but sorry you needed to find us. [/QUOTE]
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