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<blockquote data-quote="wintak" data-source="post: 427863" data-attributes="member: 11938"><p>I've asked Therapist #2 about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and she kind of dismissed it. And the current therapists have, also. I'm sure at this point I do have some attachment issues with him. I've only written the tip of the iceberg, there's so much more that has happened. Current psychiatrist asked if this was a "failed adoption" and in my mind I'm thinking..uh, no,..he came home but she meant that some kids do not "fit" with the adopted family. I didn't ask what we do in that case. I didn't want to hear the answer. Might have to ask next week. She tries to get me to say I hate him sometimes and I won't say it. I'm deathly afraid if I say the wrong thing they'll send someone to the house and I'll lose all 3. I'm sure that's an unfounded issue in my mind, but it's there. I don't like his behaviour. I don't like that EVERY FREAKIN THING I SAY to that child somehow begins a fight and always ends up being MY fault (in his mind). That's why I give up so much with him, I'm so tired of fighting. It's ALWAYS my fault that he's mad, sad (aka smad as we've termed it in the house) or angry. I'm mean, he hates me (screams that pretty regularly). IF it was a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) then why would he not even TRY coping skills with the anger? I've read up on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and ODD and all the other acronyms (and autism spectrum) and he's got a ton of practically ALL the acronym symptoms. And my adult mind just doesn't get this. I can't comprehend why a child who looks "typical" would act like a 2 or 3 year old emotionally. </p><p>He does pick all the time on his sister, verbally. School is her sanctuary according to her teacher and from what I can gather.</p><p></p><p>Funny that SusieStar mentioned terrorizing after bedtime....sometimes he'll walk in my room in the middle of the night, just stare at me (I wake up and have chill bumps going up and down my body) and then after a few minutes leave. I don't know if he's sleepwalking...I seriously get scared when he does that. That is SO creepy</p><p></p><p>Thanks for letting me vent. I may end up doing that quite a bit. As a mother, I can't fathom how it would make my child feel if I sent him away to a group home. Wouldn't that make him feel even MORE unloved (if that's how he feels). WOuldn't it make him feel like we didn't want him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wintak, post: 427863, member: 11938"] I've asked Therapist #2 about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and she kind of dismissed it. And the current therapists have, also. I'm sure at this point I do have some attachment issues with him. I've only written the tip of the iceberg, there's so much more that has happened. Current psychiatrist asked if this was a "failed adoption" and in my mind I'm thinking..uh, no,..he came home but she meant that some kids do not "fit" with the adopted family. I didn't ask what we do in that case. I didn't want to hear the answer. Might have to ask next week. She tries to get me to say I hate him sometimes and I won't say it. I'm deathly afraid if I say the wrong thing they'll send someone to the house and I'll lose all 3. I'm sure that's an unfounded issue in my mind, but it's there. I don't like his behaviour. I don't like that EVERY FREAKIN THING I SAY to that child somehow begins a fight and always ends up being MY fault (in his mind). That's why I give up so much with him, I'm so tired of fighting. It's ALWAYS my fault that he's mad, sad (aka smad as we've termed it in the house) or angry. I'm mean, he hates me (screams that pretty regularly). IF it was a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) then why would he not even TRY coping skills with the anger? I've read up on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and ODD and all the other acronyms (and autism spectrum) and he's got a ton of practically ALL the acronym symptoms. And my adult mind just doesn't get this. I can't comprehend why a child who looks "typical" would act like a 2 or 3 year old emotionally. He does pick all the time on his sister, verbally. School is her sanctuary according to her teacher and from what I can gather. Funny that SusieStar mentioned terrorizing after bedtime....sometimes he'll walk in my room in the middle of the night, just stare at me (I wake up and have chill bumps going up and down my body) and then after a few minutes leave. I don't know if he's sleepwalking...I seriously get scared when he does that. That is SO creepy Thanks for letting me vent. I may end up doing that quite a bit. As a mother, I can't fathom how it would make my child feel if I sent him away to a group home. Wouldn't that make him feel even MORE unloved (if that's how he feels). WOuldn't it make him feel like we didn't want him? [/QUOTE]
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