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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 427989" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would also add that NOBODY, including social services, judged us negatively at all when we relinquished our adopted son back to the state after he had raped (repeatedly) my younger kids. Nobody. Are you certain this child is safe around your other kids? I worry because I never dreamed this horror could happen in my loving house and I always thought that, because I had spoken to my other kids about "bad" and "good" touching and had assured them we would always believe THEM, that if anyone violated the younger two, they would tell us. But once a child sexually violates a child, he appears more powerful than God to those kids. Not all kids can be saved (a very sad story we learned the hard way). Some not only shouldn't be in families, but do better without families. Standing over you at night is creepy. Maybe he does this to the other kids. Gold help me, maybe he touches them or is thinking about it? I would buy a alarm at Radio Shack so that he can not leave his room at night without waking you up so you can watch w here he is going and w hat he is doing.</p><p></p><p>Please guard yourself and your precious younger ones as well as trying to help the difficult child. If we had not let go of uber-difficult child sexual abuser, my other two kids would be as messed up as he is. I think that they are doing so well because they got so much help and saw with their own eyes that we put the blame where it belonged...on him. If we had kept him in our lives, with them so afraid of him, I doubt anyone in our family would have ever recovered. These are very hard choices we have to make. I also will note, many on this board have had to make similar "should I or shouldn't I" decisions about biological children. Dangerous is dangerous. If you have an only child, you have more leeway than if other, especially younger kids could be at risk.</p><p></p><p>Please be careful. Don't let it go as far as we did (although we didn't even know what was going on...I felt so stupid). More big hugs. We are on your side.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 427989, member: 1550"] I would also add that NOBODY, including social services, judged us negatively at all when we relinquished our adopted son back to the state after he had raped (repeatedly) my younger kids. Nobody. Are you certain this child is safe around your other kids? I worry because I never dreamed this horror could happen in my loving house and I always thought that, because I had spoken to my other kids about "bad" and "good" touching and had assured them we would always believe THEM, that if anyone violated the younger two, they would tell us. But once a child sexually violates a child, he appears more powerful than God to those kids. Not all kids can be saved (a very sad story we learned the hard way). Some not only shouldn't be in families, but do better without families. Standing over you at night is creepy. Maybe he does this to the other kids. Gold help me, maybe he touches them or is thinking about it? I would buy a alarm at Radio Shack so that he can not leave his room at night without waking you up so you can watch w here he is going and w hat he is doing. Please guard yourself and your precious younger ones as well as trying to help the difficult child. If we had not let go of uber-difficult child sexual abuser, my other two kids would be as messed up as he is. I think that they are doing so well because they got so much help and saw with their own eyes that we put the blame where it belonged...on him. If we had kept him in our lives, with them so afraid of him, I doubt anyone in our family would have ever recovered. These are very hard choices we have to make. I also will note, many on this board have had to make similar "should I or shouldn't I" decisions about biological children. Dangerous is dangerous. If you have an only child, you have more leeway than if other, especially younger kids could be at risk. Please be careful. Don't let it go as far as we did (although we didn't even know what was going on...I felt so stupid). More big hugs. We are on your side. [/QUOTE]
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