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Antisocial Personality Disorder Diagnosis of my 18 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="HanginginThere" data-source="post: 711010" data-attributes="member: 21562"><p>Wow, reading over this older thread on ASPD, it completely describes my son. He was diagnosed with ODD when he was in 4th grade. I tried many different therapists but nothing really seemed to help. He used to say he didn't care a lot and I thought it was just a teenage phase and he would grow out of it. I tried to keep him really busy when he was in high school- football, soccer, police explorers, all star cheerleading etc. but his MO is that once he proves that he can be the best at it, he's through with it. After he graduated, he went into the Army and was with the 82nd Airborne Division. He again seemed to initially excel at it and then he wouldn't listen to his NCOs and everything went downhill and he was kicked out with a little under two years under his belt. Last year, after going from job to job and in and out of jail for drugs and stealing, he decided he wanted to go to college and I thought that this could be his fresh start. Nope, he just ended up conning me out of a significant amount of money and going on a drug binge. I also dealt with trying to get him out of the house and at one point he tried to kick my door down and the police were called. He had left and the police contacted him and asked if he had done it. He answered yes because he wanted to get some books out of the house. Momtom, the very best advice I can give you is to practice the art of detachment. No matter how hard you try you cannot fix him-he has to want to commit to change on his own. I had to let my son become homeless living out of the Waffle House which just tore my heart to pieces. That is the only way they understand that they are responsible for their own problems and may mature from the consequences they experience. I know this is a hard lesson to learn but it does bring some hope of some happiness when you unburden yourself from the onus of your son's issues. Try to give yourself permission to focus on you and your other family members and relieve yourself of the constant worry that our difficult children tend to continuously bring to our doorsteps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HanginginThere, post: 711010, member: 21562"] Wow, reading over this older thread on ASPD, it completely describes my son. He was diagnosed with ODD when he was in 4th grade. I tried many different therapists but nothing really seemed to help. He used to say he didn't care a lot and I thought it was just a teenage phase and he would grow out of it. I tried to keep him really busy when he was in high school- football, soccer, police explorers, all star cheerleading etc. but his MO is that once he proves that he can be the best at it, he's through with it. After he graduated, he went into the Army and was with the 82nd Airborne Division. He again seemed to initially excel at it and then he wouldn't listen to his NCOs and everything went downhill and he was kicked out with a little under two years under his belt. Last year, after going from job to job and in and out of jail for drugs and stealing, he decided he wanted to go to college and I thought that this could be his fresh start. Nope, he just ended up conning me out of a significant amount of money and going on a drug binge. I also dealt with trying to get him out of the house and at one point he tried to kick my door down and the police were called. He had left and the police contacted him and asked if he had done it. He answered yes because he wanted to get some books out of the house. Momtom, the very best advice I can give you is to practice the art of detachment. No matter how hard you try you cannot fix him-he has to want to commit to change on his own. I had to let my son become homeless living out of the Waffle House which just tore my heart to pieces. That is the only way they understand that they are responsible for their own problems and may mature from the consequences they experience. I know this is a hard lesson to learn but it does bring some hope of some happiness when you unburden yourself from the onus of your son's issues. Try to give yourself permission to focus on you and your other family members and relieve yourself of the constant worry that our difficult children tend to continuously bring to our doorsteps. [/QUOTE]
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