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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 259240" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>GG, I think Loth's advice is spot-on.</p><p></p><p>Because of the type of work husband and I do, there are times when one or other of us has a break between contracts. When my work was slow and steady, I would pick up a lot of the slack at home. When husband had more time, he would do so.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to sit down with him, and give him really clear-cut information.</p><p>- things that you will find overwhelming to try to juggle when you start your job</p><p>- specific things you would like him to do, to keep the home running smoothly</p><p>- clear direction about any schedule, etc. E.g. laundry needs to be done at least twice a week, otherwise we all run out of clean clothes. </p><p></p><p>If there are things you can do, or things you can both do together, to simplify matters then perhaps you can discuss them together and come up with a plan.</p><p></p><p>For example, if you can come up with a bunch of recipes for the crock pot, where husband can just pop in the ingredients and let them sit. Or things you can both cook and freeze on the weekends, for easy reheating during the week, then it might be manageable for both of you.</p><p></p><p>I think a lot of our husband's and SO's don't really have a firm grasp of all the things we do around the house to keep things running smoothly. I call this "magic elf syndrome". The house is spotless. "Oh. The Magic Elves must have been here." That sort of thing.</p><p></p><p>If you just ask your husband to pitch in and take care of the house, he probably doesn't have a really clear idea of what "take care of the house" entails. If you spell it out for him and give him clear expectations it will help a lot.</p><p></p><p>I think the new job sounds exciting!</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 259240, member: 3907"] GG, I think Loth's advice is spot-on. Because of the type of work husband and I do, there are times when one or other of us has a break between contracts. When my work was slow and steady, I would pick up a lot of the slack at home. When husband had more time, he would do so. I think you need to sit down with him, and give him really clear-cut information. - things that you will find overwhelming to try to juggle when you start your job - specific things you would like him to do, to keep the home running smoothly - clear direction about any schedule, etc. E.g. laundry needs to be done at least twice a week, otherwise we all run out of clean clothes. If there are things you can do, or things you can both do together, to simplify matters then perhaps you can discuss them together and come up with a plan. For example, if you can come up with a bunch of recipes for the crock pot, where husband can just pop in the ingredients and let them sit. Or things you can both cook and freeze on the weekends, for easy reheating during the week, then it might be manageable for both of you. I think a lot of our husband's and SO's don't really have a firm grasp of all the things we do around the house to keep things running smoothly. I call this "magic elf syndrome". The house is spotless. "Oh. The Magic Elves must have been here." That sort of thing. If you just ask your husband to pitch in and take care of the house, he probably doesn't have a really clear idea of what "take care of the house" entails. If you spell it out for him and give him clear expectations it will help a lot. I think the new job sounds exciting! Trinity [/QUOTE]
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