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Any good experiences of rebellious kids coersed to twelve steps programs?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 603741" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I think this is the biggest problem for my difficult child with GA at least now. difficult child is happy with there he is with his addiction issues. His 'stinkin thinkin' does work for him and I can imagine him taking offence, if someone tells him it is 'stinkin thinkin.' After all, issues he does have currently either have very little or nothing to do with addiction or are things that can not be changed. </p><p></p><p>If, and when, he suffers the effects his past actions caused to his reputation, there is very little he can do to help that other than continue to behave differently and let the past be past. He has made his amends for those he did hurt, some relationships have been healed a lot (mostly those with family and others who were close to him to begin with), some a bit, some had nothing worth healing to begin with. If someone who was in no way part of those past issues chooses to keep them a true testament of difficult child's character, there is little difficult child can do to that and I understand very well, he doesn't feel like using all his energy to trying to prove them wrong. What has happened has happened and can't be taken back. Yes, trust was broken and that is a biggie, and there were some momentary damages (though he has paid those back) but I do understand difficult child wanting to look forward and not spend his time thinking of mistakes he did when he was 16 or 17. So for him changing, when it comes to addiction, doesn't seem a current issue. For someone who is only 20, three years is awfully long time and he has been doing very well managing his addiction till now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 603741, member: 14557"] I think this is the biggest problem for my difficult child with GA at least now. difficult child is happy with there he is with his addiction issues. His 'stinkin thinkin' does work for him and I can imagine him taking offence, if someone tells him it is 'stinkin thinkin.' After all, issues he does have currently either have very little or nothing to do with addiction or are things that can not be changed. If, and when, he suffers the effects his past actions caused to his reputation, there is very little he can do to help that other than continue to behave differently and let the past be past. He has made his amends for those he did hurt, some relationships have been healed a lot (mostly those with family and others who were close to him to begin with), some a bit, some had nothing worth healing to begin with. If someone who was in no way part of those past issues chooses to keep them a true testament of difficult child's character, there is little difficult child can do to that and I understand very well, he doesn't feel like using all his energy to trying to prove them wrong. What has happened has happened and can't be taken back. Yes, trust was broken and that is a biggie, and there were some momentary damages (though he has paid those back) but I do understand difficult child wanting to look forward and not spend his time thinking of mistakes he did when he was 16 or 17. So for him changing, when it comes to addiction, doesn't seem a current issue. For someone who is only 20, three years is awfully long time and he has been doing very well managing his addiction till now. [/QUOTE]
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