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Any good experiences of rebellious kids coersed to twelve steps programs?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 603782" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Lovemysons: No need to apologize. We all write based on our own experiences and situations. And of course my son's situation isn't common. You don't usually start going to that type of support groups, when you have been in recovery 2,5 years and it is going well and addiction is not really causing much current issues. In fact I suspect that many who started going when their situation was bad, may stop going or go only once in a while, when their situation is better and they have new things in their life.</p><p></p><p>IC: Yeah, difficult child doesn't see much point in going to GA at this point. While his addiction was partly trauma reaction; and it may be that it was the biggest factor, treating addiction doesn't much change other trauma symptoms and neither his other pre-existing issues. And he isn't so naive that he couldn't understand his employer's thinking in forcing him to it. While the GM of the team really is a believer of the twelve steps system, they also hired a kid they know has had issues, by forcing him to free support group they can claim they 'did everything they could to support him' with no cost to them, if difficult child does end up having issues. Providing him more appropriate treatment would had cost them. And not doing anything at all would look bad, if difficult child ends up having (public) problems.</p><p></p><p>Of course neither are I and husband or difficult child's agent naive enough not to understand that. But what difficult child wanted for this season was focus on sport and a break from his real treatment and other 'real life.' His PTSD therapy has been out of his employer's hand from the get-go, his former team did provide psychiatrist appointments, but from now on we want those to be out from his employers' (current and future) hands too. His former team was great to him, but sports can be cruel business and we don't really want anything too important to be depending on his employers' whims. At this point we wanted his sport psychiatric to be affiliated with the team, mainly because some of difficult child issues are such that sport psychiatric absolutely needs an access to his coaches etc. and when the team is paying the fees, they are more likely to listen too. But if difficult child continues to make progress and also does well with his sport career, also sport psychiatric is a service he will want to have in his own payroll, not team's. </p><p></p><p>Sig: Yeah, that kind of is the problem. I think I just have to hope, that my whelp has matured enough to put his goals first and not to rebel for rebelling sake if it will only bite his own butt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 603782, member: 14557"] Lovemysons: No need to apologize. We all write based on our own experiences and situations. And of course my son's situation isn't common. You don't usually start going to that type of support groups, when you have been in recovery 2,5 years and it is going well and addiction is not really causing much current issues. In fact I suspect that many who started going when their situation was bad, may stop going or go only once in a while, when their situation is better and they have new things in their life. IC: Yeah, difficult child doesn't see much point in going to GA at this point. While his addiction was partly trauma reaction; and it may be that it was the biggest factor, treating addiction doesn't much change other trauma symptoms and neither his other pre-existing issues. And he isn't so naive that he couldn't understand his employer's thinking in forcing him to it. While the GM of the team really is a believer of the twelve steps system, they also hired a kid they know has had issues, by forcing him to free support group they can claim they 'did everything they could to support him' with no cost to them, if difficult child does end up having issues. Providing him more appropriate treatment would had cost them. And not doing anything at all would look bad, if difficult child ends up having (public) problems. Of course neither are I and husband or difficult child's agent naive enough not to understand that. But what difficult child wanted for this season was focus on sport and a break from his real treatment and other 'real life.' His PTSD therapy has been out of his employer's hand from the get-go, his former team did provide psychiatrist appointments, but from now on we want those to be out from his employers' (current and future) hands too. His former team was great to him, but sports can be cruel business and we don't really want anything too important to be depending on his employers' whims. At this point we wanted his sport psychiatric to be affiliated with the team, mainly because some of difficult child issues are such that sport psychiatric absolutely needs an access to his coaches etc. and when the team is paying the fees, they are more likely to listen too. But if difficult child continues to make progress and also does well with his sport career, also sport psychiatric is a service he will want to have in his own payroll, not team's. Sig: Yeah, that kind of is the problem. I think I just have to hope, that my whelp has matured enough to put his goals first and not to rebel for rebelling sake if it will only bite his own butt. [/QUOTE]
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