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Any other difficult child's have attitudes after counseling?
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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 12356" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>something just occured to me, - some people see a counselor for affirmation, validation and maybe to vent? If that is the reason yu are seeing a counselor, and if that is what you are getting, then, sure how hard would it be to leavve there and be ok fine and relatively happy?</p><p>some people go becuz they are trying to mov foraward beyond and past some trauamtic life experience or extreme stress. that can be hard and likely when you go to those kind of sessions, the traumatic event is back up front in your mind. If that event was profound enough to send you seeking counseling, it is likely it is not something that feels ral good to be thinking about or remembering. </p><p>and then some people, very often our kids----go to counseling not becuz THEY sought it out, but becuz school, court, parents, CPS or someone said they have to. and very often it is becuz something is "wrong" with how the person being sent acts or behaves. So- before you even BEGIN the session, that is right there--"I am acting or behaving in an undesireable way" Most people do desire to be loved, be good, and get approval. It hurts no mtter if you are difficult child or not to know the people you love and or the people who love you think something is seriously wrong enough to send you to an expensive therapist. And very often at that type of sessions, it is hard work to have to face head on what everyone dislikes about us and uncomfortable to unlearn bad ways and relearn good ways. If we hit our head on a cabinet door we want to react, we do not want to have to stop and think abot our reaction and if it is appropraite. For many of our kids their actions and behaviors are as reflexive as ----um----well, crying out when he hit our head. and to sit and hear it and discuss it and all, it is hard. and we know "normal" people do not have to sit an hour a week and be confronted with THEIR shortcomings. Or constantly worry if every action and reaction is apropriate. Counseling sessions are treatment, they are treatment for a mental problem..and they can be every bit as difficult, painful and grueling as a chemotherapy session or radiation session or a hemodialysis session.</p><p>If our parents have called ahead to "tattle" on us, we can fear our therapist will not "like us" and while the truth of the issue is it does not matter of therapist likes us or not, we all do strive in our soul for approval.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 12356, member: 1697"] something just occured to me, - some people see a counselor for affirmation, validation and maybe to vent? If that is the reason yu are seeing a counselor, and if that is what you are getting, then, sure how hard would it be to leavve there and be ok fine and relatively happy? some people go becuz they are trying to mov foraward beyond and past some trauamtic life experience or extreme stress. that can be hard and likely when you go to those kind of sessions, the traumatic event is back up front in your mind. If that event was profound enough to send you seeking counseling, it is likely it is not something that feels ral good to be thinking about or remembering. and then some people, very often our kids----go to counseling not becuz THEY sought it out, but becuz school, court, parents, CPS or someone said they have to. and very often it is becuz something is "wrong" with how the person being sent acts or behaves. So- before you even BEGIN the session, that is right there--"I am acting or behaving in an undesireable way" Most people do desire to be loved, be good, and get approval. It hurts no mtter if you are difficult child or not to know the people you love and or the people who love you think something is seriously wrong enough to send you to an expensive therapist. And very often at that type of sessions, it is hard work to have to face head on what everyone dislikes about us and uncomfortable to unlearn bad ways and relearn good ways. If we hit our head on a cabinet door we want to react, we do not want to have to stop and think abot our reaction and if it is appropraite. For many of our kids their actions and behaviors are as reflexive as ----um----well, crying out when he hit our head. and to sit and hear it and discuss it and all, it is hard. and we know "normal" people do not have to sit an hour a week and be confronted with THEIR shortcomings. Or constantly worry if every action and reaction is apropriate. Counseling sessions are treatment, they are treatment for a mental problem..and they can be every bit as difficult, painful and grueling as a chemotherapy session or radiation session or a hemodialysis session. If our parents have called ahead to "tattle" on us, we can fear our therapist will not "like us" and while the truth of the issue is it does not matter of therapist likes us or not, we all do strive in our soul for approval. [/QUOTE]
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