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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 420313" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>Wonder what would have happened if you'd said No I won't do the behavior chart. This is so far past behavior chart that we are talking about my daughter having her brother's blood on her hands. Are you prepared to take responsibility for that? Because if it happens while you guys are trying to make her do a behavior chart you can bet I will be talking to anyone and everyone including the media about it. And you will not look good. I want to speak to your supervisor. Today.</p><p></p><p>Has anyone ever tried calling their local Congressional representative or Senator's office for help with these situations? Your State Department of Health - or whichever agency oversees the agency you're dealing with?</p><p></p><p>I think the behavior chart thing comes up because it really does work with a lot of kids and the parents actually haven't done it. Plus it's the easiest intervention to put in place quickly, it's easy to define and describe to families, it's totally on the family to enforce ... and it's the easiest thing for the social worker to remember from his/her classes don't you think?</p><p></p><p>But our kids are not "a lot of kids" they are the ones that are special and for whom behavior charts don't work or are negative reinforcers/triggers.</p><p></p><p>I do think we have to get really literal with these folks about our kids and clearly describe the potentially lethal or injurious behavior we are dealing with. In words of one syllable or less. If they still don't listen, then we may have to make it very clear to them that our family could be on the front page tomorrow if they don't act today.</p><p></p><p>That's when pictures of injuries and damage to your prooperty, a diary of police calls, medical follow ups - evidence of the danger may be needed.</p><p></p><p>The scary thing for us is knowing that making this clear to "the authorities" also means that what happens next may be out of our control. Every time we call the police we know they may decide to take him to juvie and charge him and the judge may decide he cannot come home, etc. But not to call them is not a solution.</p><p></p><p>Patricia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 420313, member: 7948"] Wonder what would have happened if you'd said No I won't do the behavior chart. This is so far past behavior chart that we are talking about my daughter having her brother's blood on her hands. Are you prepared to take responsibility for that? Because if it happens while you guys are trying to make her do a behavior chart you can bet I will be talking to anyone and everyone including the media about it. And you will not look good. I want to speak to your supervisor. Today. Has anyone ever tried calling their local Congressional representative or Senator's office for help with these situations? Your State Department of Health - or whichever agency oversees the agency you're dealing with? I think the behavior chart thing comes up because it really does work with a lot of kids and the parents actually haven't done it. Plus it's the easiest intervention to put in place quickly, it's easy to define and describe to families, it's totally on the family to enforce ... and it's the easiest thing for the social worker to remember from his/her classes don't you think? But our kids are not "a lot of kids" they are the ones that are special and for whom behavior charts don't work or are negative reinforcers/triggers. I do think we have to get really literal with these folks about our kids and clearly describe the potentially lethal or injurious behavior we are dealing with. In words of one syllable or less. If they still don't listen, then we may have to make it very clear to them that our family could be on the front page tomorrow if they don't act today. That's when pictures of injuries and damage to your prooperty, a diary of police calls, medical follow ups - evidence of the danger may be needed. The scary thing for us is knowing that making this clear to "the authorities" also means that what happens next may be out of our control. Every time we call the police we know they may decide to take him to juvie and charge him and the judge may decide he cannot come home, etc. But not to call them is not a solution. Patricia [/QUOTE]
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