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Anyone else feeling like they want to do away with their child sometimes?
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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 459359" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>Calling the police is pointless if he has not actually hurt someone or committed major property damage. And he always stops just short of that. He has become very good at manipulating the "system" here.</p><p></p><p>I know where you're coming from Marcie. We have been working with "mini-wrap around" services for almost 6 months now and it is no better now than it was at the beginning. Except he has gotten more devious and cunning about his abuse most of the time. Even last weekend when he was threatening us with a small bat we knew there was no point in calling the police. By the time they got here - usually takes at least 45 minutes - he would be "calm" and they might take the bat and that would be that. I went in his room and took it when he went to school on Tuesday since he had refused to give it to us voluntarily. That resulted in a rage all Tuesday night.</p><p></p><p>I have calls into my therapist and our wrap-around counselor. But I don't really see my reaction as irrational. I think it is much like people who have lived with domestic violence for a long time except they usually have a way out, painful and difficult as it might be. The thing that is getting to me is that there is really no way out and I have lost faith that anything is going to change. There was something about his being willing to throw food out that crossed some kind of line for me.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I won't do anything about my thoughts. They're just thoughts and I have a lot of intrusive thoughts that are part of my illness and I have learned to ignore. This is just one of them.</p><p></p><p>I realize that he could be doing much more objectively dangerous and damaging things. He is mostly doing petty and annoying things at this point. I need to focus on the current reality and stop living in a future where he has progressed to that level but we have no choice but to endure it until he turns 18 because there are no other long term options. It's hard since we have walked this road before with difficult child 1 and it did not turn out well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 459359, member: 11920"] Calling the police is pointless if he has not actually hurt someone or committed major property damage. And he always stops just short of that. He has become very good at manipulating the "system" here. I know where you're coming from Marcie. We have been working with "mini-wrap around" services for almost 6 months now and it is no better now than it was at the beginning. Except he has gotten more devious and cunning about his abuse most of the time. Even last weekend when he was threatening us with a small bat we knew there was no point in calling the police. By the time they got here - usually takes at least 45 minutes - he would be "calm" and they might take the bat and that would be that. I went in his room and took it when he went to school on Tuesday since he had refused to give it to us voluntarily. That resulted in a rage all Tuesday night. I have calls into my therapist and our wrap-around counselor. But I don't really see my reaction as irrational. I think it is much like people who have lived with domestic violence for a long time except they usually have a way out, painful and difficult as it might be. The thing that is getting to me is that there is really no way out and I have lost faith that anything is going to change. There was something about his being willing to throw food out that crossed some kind of line for me. Anyway, I won't do anything about my thoughts. They're just thoughts and I have a lot of intrusive thoughts that are part of my illness and I have learned to ignore. This is just one of them. I realize that he could be doing much more objectively dangerous and damaging things. He is mostly doing petty and annoying things at this point. I need to focus on the current reality and stop living in a future where he has progressed to that level but we have no choice but to endure it until he turns 18 because there are no other long term options. It's hard since we have walked this road before with difficult child 1 and it did not turn out well. [/QUOTE]
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