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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 328797" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>What I have found helps me when depressed, is DOING. I get busy with my hands. At first I really have to push myself, but once I get over the initial inertia it gets easier.</p><p></p><p>Next thing - what we did this yer, we got busy baking. I had a cookie press I bought some years ago for a gift and never gave it, so I opened it up and began to use it. It was a lot of fun! I was baking with easy child 2/difficult child 2 and her friend, plus I got difficult child 3 involved a bit too. You could get your difficult child involved and get him to make some cookies for Santa. I baked about 4 litres of cookies in a range of shapes and colours. The girls got half, I've got the other half which I got difficult child 3 to bag up so I can give them to friends at church on Christmas Day. </p><p>I also got the bread machine busy making panettone - it's also fun to make. Any bread dough is very therapeutic when you're feeling depressed or angry. It's a bit late to make a gingerbread house, but that is a wonderful project to make with kids (even those who have outgrown Santa!).</p><p></p><p>In our family, Santa comes to all those under high school age (about 11 in Australia). That takes away the need for kids to fake beleif as they get older in order to get tat extra gift from Santa. The Santa gift was never wrapped (we often chose the ones tat were trickier to wrap!) and the kids got that one first thing in the morning. All our other gift unwrapping has to wait until after church.</p><p>With the Santa gift, knowing it stops with entry to high school made it easier to wean them off it and also resolve the belief issue. Generally the kids had outgrown belief in Santa by high school (well and truly!) except for difficult child 3. I never wanted to tell him about Santa when he was little, I think I had already realised he would have problems. But some relatives would NOT respect our choices and I was so angry, but the damage was done. And I think difficult child 3 still believes in Santa, at 15. But with Santa no longer visiting (because there are so many children in the world who are younger and need him more) I think it's been easier for difficult child 3 to not cling so much to the idea.</p><p></p><p>My sister has a German husband and their family custom was always - the kids get to open ONE gift from the tree with their name on it, on Chritmas Eve. Plus my sister would (again on Christmas Eve) have a bowl of sweets for each family member, with their name on it. It's up to them when they eat them. They can scoff the lot immediately, or ration them over the next week or more.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 328797, member: 1991"] What I have found helps me when depressed, is DOING. I get busy with my hands. At first I really have to push myself, but once I get over the initial inertia it gets easier. Next thing - what we did this yer, we got busy baking. I had a cookie press I bought some years ago for a gift and never gave it, so I opened it up and began to use it. It was a lot of fun! I was baking with easy child 2/difficult child 2 and her friend, plus I got difficult child 3 involved a bit too. You could get your difficult child involved and get him to make some cookies for Santa. I baked about 4 litres of cookies in a range of shapes and colours. The girls got half, I've got the other half which I got difficult child 3 to bag up so I can give them to friends at church on Christmas Day. I also got the bread machine busy making panettone - it's also fun to make. Any bread dough is very therapeutic when you're feeling depressed or angry. It's a bit late to make a gingerbread house, but that is a wonderful project to make with kids (even those who have outgrown Santa!). In our family, Santa comes to all those under high school age (about 11 in Australia). That takes away the need for kids to fake beleif as they get older in order to get tat extra gift from Santa. The Santa gift was never wrapped (we often chose the ones tat were trickier to wrap!) and the kids got that one first thing in the morning. All our other gift unwrapping has to wait until after church. With the Santa gift, knowing it stops with entry to high school made it easier to wean them off it and also resolve the belief issue. Generally the kids had outgrown belief in Santa by high school (well and truly!) except for difficult child 3. I never wanted to tell him about Santa when he was little, I think I had already realised he would have problems. But some relatives would NOT respect our choices and I was so angry, but the damage was done. And I think difficult child 3 still believes in Santa, at 15. But with Santa no longer visiting (because there are so many children in the world who are younger and need him more) I think it's been easier for difficult child 3 to not cling so much to the idea. My sister has a German husband and their family custom was always - the kids get to open ONE gift from the tree with their name on it, on Chritmas Eve. Plus my sister would (again on Christmas Eve) have a bowl of sweets for each family member, with their name on it. It's up to them when they eat them. They can scoff the lot immediately, or ration them over the next week or more. Marg [/QUOTE]
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