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Anyone heard of a "Letter Intervention" ? Help for niece
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 372841" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Whoa! Hold your horses! She asked easy child to participate and easy child does not have a close relationship to this cousin? No. Freakin'. Way. </p><p> </p><p>Yes, at 19 easy child is a legal adult. However, she is still in some respects a child, YOUR child. No way is it appropriate for your sister to ask easy child to intervene in this or any situation involving the cousin's substance abuse. It would be different if they were close, or had been close until the addiction started. Asking you is something a sister does, but asking easy child is, in my opinion at least, a sign that she really has lost her grip on normal boundaries in families. I would no more ask the aunt who has kids' Wiz and Jess' ages to have her kids somehow influence my kids about something than I would walk outside and pee on a tree. It just isn't appropriate, and my kids and my aunt's kids DID play together when they were little and do keep in touch on facebook. </p><p> </p><p>Your sister may need the intervention to let her know that there really is nothing to be accomplished with this letter intervention. I would be shocked if a licensed therapist thought it was a good idea, esp if that therapist specialized in addiction. </p><p> </p><p>As for what to tell your sister, how about, "I know this is a very hard time for you, and a difficult thing to cope with. We have chosen not to send letters because we are quite sure that they will make things worse. We love you and want to support you. If you need to come here to get away from it all for a few days, you are more than welcome. If you decide to have a formal intervention with an interventionist, I will help all that I can. I just cannot see anything positive coming from a letter intervention."</p><p> </p><p>If she asks about easy child, tell her that easy child is focusing on school right now and needs to spend all of her focus there as she needs excellent grades to meet her goals."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 372841, member: 1233"] Whoa! Hold your horses! She asked easy child to participate and easy child does not have a close relationship to this cousin? No. Freakin'. Way. Yes, at 19 easy child is a legal adult. However, she is still in some respects a child, YOUR child. No way is it appropriate for your sister to ask easy child to intervene in this or any situation involving the cousin's substance abuse. It would be different if they were close, or had been close until the addiction started. Asking you is something a sister does, but asking easy child is, in my opinion at least, a sign that she really has lost her grip on normal boundaries in families. I would no more ask the aunt who has kids' Wiz and Jess' ages to have her kids somehow influence my kids about something than I would walk outside and pee on a tree. It just isn't appropriate, and my kids and my aunt's kids DID play together when they were little and do keep in touch on facebook. Your sister may need the intervention to let her know that there really is nothing to be accomplished with this letter intervention. I would be shocked if a licensed therapist thought it was a good idea, esp if that therapist specialized in addiction. As for what to tell your sister, how about, "I know this is a very hard time for you, and a difficult thing to cope with. We have chosen not to send letters because we are quite sure that they will make things worse. We love you and want to support you. If you need to come here to get away from it all for a few days, you are more than welcome. If you decide to have a formal intervention with an interventionist, I will help all that I can. I just cannot see anything positive coming from a letter intervention." If she asks about easy child, tell her that easy child is focusing on school right now and needs to spend all of her focus there as she needs excellent grades to meet her goals." [/QUOTE]
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