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Anyone heard of a "Letter Intervention" ? Help for niece
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 373209" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I just spoke with-my sister.</p><p> </p><p>She said that difficult child is leaning toward interventon, but getting her to show up is the hard part. Sister has contact with-one of difficult child's friends and can get her to participate in both letter writing and showing up in person.</p><p>Apparently a cpl people have already written letters and mailed them.</p><p> </p><p>I told her that my easy child flat out refused and why. Sister said she had researched it and knows what she is doing. She said it isn't that easy child might not feel close to difficult child, it's what is going on in difficult child's mind, and she feels like easy child is like a sister. Sister said that difficult child's friendships have dwindled and she has barely anyone in her life any more. She is trying to choose key people to participate.</p><p> </p><p>I told her I felt loyalty to her, but frozen with-fear about difficult child and I don't want to send her over the edge. I did not sleep at all the other night, thinking about niece difficult child, and I did not like the idea that a therapist would not be present when she read the ltrs. Sister said, "Doing something is better than nothing." I again said I didn't want to send her over the edge, and sister said, "She's going to die anyway."</p><p> </p><p>The letters are supposed to mostly stress the positive aspects of difficult child and what we love about her. Then we can add something about how we miss the way she used to be, but we cannot say anything that blames or shames.</p><p>I don't know how I'm supposed to add something like, "I remember the time when your mom asked you to bring up your laundry to your room and you screamed and ranted and raved like a 2-yr-old, way out of proportion to the situation. And the time you slept through Christmas in Colo and were so moody you couldn't even celebrate."</p><p>Isn't that blaming?</p><p> </p><p>I've typed up a few ideas but I'm still frozen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 373209, member: 3419"] I just spoke with-my sister. She said that difficult child is leaning toward interventon, but getting her to show up is the hard part. Sister has contact with-one of difficult child's friends and can get her to participate in both letter writing and showing up in person. Apparently a cpl people have already written letters and mailed them. I told her that my easy child flat out refused and why. Sister said she had researched it and knows what she is doing. She said it isn't that easy child might not feel close to difficult child, it's what is going on in difficult child's mind, and she feels like easy child is like a sister. Sister said that difficult child's friendships have dwindled and she has barely anyone in her life any more. She is trying to choose key people to participate. I told her I felt loyalty to her, but frozen with-fear about difficult child and I don't want to send her over the edge. I did not sleep at all the other night, thinking about niece difficult child, and I did not like the idea that a therapist would not be present when she read the ltrs. Sister said, "Doing something is better than nothing." I again said I didn't want to send her over the edge, and sister said, "She's going to die anyway." The letters are supposed to mostly stress the positive aspects of difficult child and what we love about her. Then we can add something about how we miss the way she used to be, but we cannot say anything that blames or shames. I don't know how I'm supposed to add something like, "I remember the time when your mom asked you to bring up your laundry to your room and you screamed and ranted and raved like a 2-yr-old, way out of proportion to the situation. And the time you slept through Christmas in Colo and were so moody you couldn't even celebrate." Isn't that blaming? I've typed up a few ideas but I'm still frozen. [/QUOTE]
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