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Anyone heard of a "Letter Intervention" ? Help for niece
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 373391" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>What an awesome poem. You have a real gift with words and imagery. If you feel you need to send something, that would be the thing to send. </p><p> </p><p>I really do not think your sister is thinking clearly, but it may take months or years for her to get to a point where she can admit it. We like to think that addicts are going to die any minute, and of course they can, but it is NOT as likely as we want the addict to think it is. I know a LOT of people who have been alcoholics for decades and likely will be for decades more. I know many people who have been addicts for many years, even decades. I will admit that not many have been on meth, but I know of some who have. One of J's classmates when she was in 5th grade, a really sweet difficult child who did a LOT to protect thank you on the bus when kids were picking on him, is the daughter of a meth addict. This girl is a difficult child mostly because her mom used drugs while pregnant. I would bet that many of us know a lot of people who have used drugs or alcohol for years and are still doing so.</p><p> </p><p>So niece might die, but it is not the inevitable outcome of the next few months, not unless something else is going on with her. Your sis may not be able to see this, of course. I seriously question the abilities and certification and common sense of any therapist who encouraged your sister to try this letter intervention. It just does not sound like a good thing, though I am NOT a therapist, of course. </p><p> </p><p>If you feel you need to send something, your poem is beautiful and positive and I would send it rather than a typical letter.</p><p> </p><p>As to doing something being better than nothing, that is hogwash. There are a lot of times when doing nothing is better than doing something, even when it comes to your child's health. How many times have we taken our kids to the doctor for a virus? Getting an antibiotic is a lot worse than letting it run its course if it is a virus, isn't it? There are a lot of times when doing nothing is better than doing something. If you are not willing to do what you say you will, telling a difficult child that you will do something if they don't shape up is a LOT worse than just keeping your trap shut in the first place, isn't it? Any of us could go on and on with examples.</p><p> </p><p>in my opinion it is just another way your sister isn't thinking clearly or rationally. I am sorry you have to make such choices as this. Do what your instincts tell you to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 373391, member: 1233"] What an awesome poem. You have a real gift with words and imagery. If you feel you need to send something, that would be the thing to send. I really do not think your sister is thinking clearly, but it may take months or years for her to get to a point where she can admit it. We like to think that addicts are going to die any minute, and of course they can, but it is NOT as likely as we want the addict to think it is. I know a LOT of people who have been alcoholics for decades and likely will be for decades more. I know many people who have been addicts for many years, even decades. I will admit that not many have been on meth, but I know of some who have. One of J's classmates when she was in 5th grade, a really sweet difficult child who did a LOT to protect thank you on the bus when kids were picking on him, is the daughter of a meth addict. This girl is a difficult child mostly because her mom used drugs while pregnant. I would bet that many of us know a lot of people who have used drugs or alcohol for years and are still doing so. So niece might die, but it is not the inevitable outcome of the next few months, not unless something else is going on with her. Your sis may not be able to see this, of course. I seriously question the abilities and certification and common sense of any therapist who encouraged your sister to try this letter intervention. It just does not sound like a good thing, though I am NOT a therapist, of course. If you feel you need to send something, your poem is beautiful and positive and I would send it rather than a typical letter. As to doing something being better than nothing, that is hogwash. There are a lot of times when doing nothing is better than doing something, even when it comes to your child's health. How many times have we taken our kids to the doctor for a virus? Getting an antibiotic is a lot worse than letting it run its course if it is a virus, isn't it? There are a lot of times when doing nothing is better than doing something. If you are not willing to do what you say you will, telling a difficult child that you will do something if they don't shape up is a LOT worse than just keeping your trap shut in the first place, isn't it? Any of us could go on and on with examples. in my opinion it is just another way your sister isn't thinking clearly or rationally. I am sorry you have to make such choices as this. Do what your instincts tell you to do. [/QUOTE]
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