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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 303825" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>First off, I would BET she is cheating. Even with the weight. It is just too cliche for a reason. </p><p></p><p>Son MUST go to an atty TOMORROW and get papers filed. Whoever files first gets custody. Period. At least until the hearing. If possible he should have you pick up George or he should take off early and get him the first week or three. He also needs to show the order to the daycare person and let them know that george is to be picked up ONLY by him or someone he sends. He MUST let the caregiver know who will pick him up each day. Caregiver needs to check driver's license against what George tells her IN WRITING about who will pick up the child. She should refuse to let George leave with anyone else. Period.</p><p></p><p>Otherwise the caregiver can be charged with accessory to kidnapping. </p><p></p><p>If J files first he may not see George for weeks or months. </p><p></p><p>This is NOT going to get better. Help him if you can. If he lives some distance away maybe offer to have George with you if you can handle it. Just to keep him safely in your son's custody.</p><p></p><p>If J wants to get really nuts, she COULD take George out of state or out of the country. If her family is that close the mom might offer to PAY her to take him to Brazil. Brazil will NOT help the dad get the child back. There are a LOT of US kids in Brazil being held in spite of court rulings here, extradition orders, even against Brazilian court orders! </p><p></p><p>I know you think she is so tied to her family. But the family might just listen to her lies and help her take him to another state or country. Even if it sounds farfetched, it isn't. </p><p></p><p>I also would NOT rule out drugs. I have a cousin who was a difficult child wild child. At 18 he married his sweetheart. They worked hard, had 2 lovely daus, even built a gorgeous home. But her family makes its $$ selling drugs. Her mom used to give them big bags of pot "because times are tight". I saw these bags adn they were packed quart size ziplocs.</p><p></p><p>Her brother introduced her to meth. They lost everything. She became abusive to the girls to the point the older daughter (in high school) and her boyfriend backed the mom off the younger daughter and locked her in a closet until the police came. She was sleeping with anyone just to get drugs. Even gave my cuz a nasty disease.</p><p></p><p>They have worked things out and are getting back on track. She is active in recovery. It was the LAST thing you would EVER expect from her. Totally shocked us.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter in law really SOUNDS like drugs and other men are playing a role. Don't sweep it under the rug.</p><p></p><p>Have your son get the ball rolling so he can protect his child. THAT is his PRIMARY role right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 303825, member: 1233"] First off, I would BET she is cheating. Even with the weight. It is just too cliche for a reason. Son MUST go to an atty TOMORROW and get papers filed. Whoever files first gets custody. Period. At least until the hearing. If possible he should have you pick up George or he should take off early and get him the first week or three. He also needs to show the order to the daycare person and let them know that george is to be picked up ONLY by him or someone he sends. He MUST let the caregiver know who will pick him up each day. Caregiver needs to check driver's license against what George tells her IN WRITING about who will pick up the child. She should refuse to let George leave with anyone else. Period. Otherwise the caregiver can be charged with accessory to kidnapping. If J files first he may not see George for weeks or months. This is NOT going to get better. Help him if you can. If he lives some distance away maybe offer to have George with you if you can handle it. Just to keep him safely in your son's custody. If J wants to get really nuts, she COULD take George out of state or out of the country. If her family is that close the mom might offer to PAY her to take him to Brazil. Brazil will NOT help the dad get the child back. There are a LOT of US kids in Brazil being held in spite of court rulings here, extradition orders, even against Brazilian court orders! I know you think she is so tied to her family. But the family might just listen to her lies and help her take him to another state or country. Even if it sounds farfetched, it isn't. I also would NOT rule out drugs. I have a cousin who was a difficult child wild child. At 18 he married his sweetheart. They worked hard, had 2 lovely daus, even built a gorgeous home. But her family makes its $$ selling drugs. Her mom used to give them big bags of pot "because times are tight". I saw these bags adn they were packed quart size ziplocs. Her brother introduced her to meth. They lost everything. She became abusive to the girls to the point the older daughter (in high school) and her boyfriend backed the mom off the younger daughter and locked her in a closet until the police came. She was sleeping with anyone just to get drugs. Even gave my cuz a nasty disease. They have worked things out and are getting back on track. She is active in recovery. It was the LAST thing you would EVER expect from her. Totally shocked us. Your daughter in law really SOUNDS like drugs and other men are playing a role. Don't sweep it under the rug. Have your son get the ball rolling so he can protect his child. THAT is his PRIMARY role right now. [/QUOTE]
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