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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 262685"><p>I'm so sorry that you, your son and your family are hurting due to behaviors of this child. Often times, physicians will simply give the diagnosis of ADHD when they are unsure of what is going on. Sometimes that is the case, but usually it is not as simple as that. My child was diagnosis'd ADHD around the age of 4 or 5 (her diagnosis was later modified).</p><p> </p><p>Has your child seen a child psychiatrist? If the problems are severe (and they sound like they might be), it might be time to see a specialist. </p><p> </p><p>There is a book called <strong>123 Magic</strong> that I really loved when my special needs child was young. It gave me techniques that helped get her to calm down a bit...we were able to use them to help her with self control. If you can not afford the book....PLEASE see if you can order it at the library. It is well worth the effort.</p><p> </p><p>The doctor gave us some medication...also very helpful.</p><p> </p><p>It's not easy, but try not to let this child damage your relationship with your spouse or other children. Keep some space/distance between this child and others if necessary. Spend some quality time with each child.</p><p> </p><p>You might find it necessary to use the services of a family counselor.</p><p>Do you belong to a church? Sometimes they have access to counselors that work on a sliding scale.</p><p> </p><p>When you say you don't have the money for school...what do you mean by this? When your children are ready for Kinder or first grade...they can attend for free in public school. </p><p> </p><p>Do you have any relatives that might help you with a few school supplies?</p><p>What about babysitting? You can ask for help with one or two of the children once in a while to help keep things a little calmer.</p><p> </p><p>Remember, although it is not easy, you can make a personal choice to be strong and keep a positive attitude. Be creative with reference to solutions. Be a role model for this type of behavior. It seems like your child has much baggage...much going against him. If he has a good role model to emulate...this will help at least a little (maybe more).</p><p> </p><p>Do what you can to strengthen yourself. Keep in contact with nice friends and fill your mind with good thoughts. Speak with doctors about your son's condition and use the internet or library to do research. </p><p> </p><p>You said:</p><p><em>"And the problem is he thinks hes the one being wrongly done and hes the one causing the chaos for everyone even himself."</em></p><p> </p><p>I do wonder if this child has a combination of entitlement concerns, low self esteem, as well as some sort of neurobiological condition. This is a nasty combination we have had with our child. She is diagnosis'd with bipolar illness. It's a long shot...but you might want to read up on this diagnosis. There is a famous book called <strong>"The Bipolar Child,"</strong> by Dr. Papolus. The <strong>"Explosive Child,"</strong> is another good one. (See post by JJJ). All these books are helpful to moms in your situation.</p><p> </p><p>Consider letting your child know that he is loved, but at the same time set up BOUNDARIES. Google the words "logical consequences."</p><p> </p><p>One thing that I found helped with my child...giving her choices...but using boundaries. For example...</p><p>What would you like to wear today...Choice A or Choice B?</p><p>I would hold up two outfits and she would pick. </p><p>(Otherwise...she would wear something inappropriate).</p><p> </p><p>If there is real benefit of going to SSI, you might go ahead with that. Will that give you any money to get some help with him? Can you use the money to see doctors, buy books, school supplies, etc.???</p><p> </p><p>With good parenting, therapy, possibly medication, patience and time...things can get better. Remember...this is not your fault. Since your child is young, you are responsible to educate yourself as best as you can to help your child. You are starting that process and will do a good job. Ultimately, your child will have to make a personal choice to make improvements.</p><p> </p><p>Please take good care of yourself and as soon as you are able, please consider a trip to the library to pick up or oder the books mentioned! You'll be glad you did.</p><p> </p><p>Wishing you well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 262685"] I'm so sorry that you, your son and your family are hurting due to behaviors of this child. Often times, physicians will simply give the diagnosis of ADHD when they are unsure of what is going on. Sometimes that is the case, but usually it is not as simple as that. My child was diagnosis'd ADHD around the age of 4 or 5 (her diagnosis was later modified). Has your child seen a child psychiatrist? If the problems are severe (and they sound like they might be), it might be time to see a specialist. There is a book called [B]123 Magic[/B] that I really loved when my special needs child was young. It gave me techniques that helped get her to calm down a bit...we were able to use them to help her with self control. If you can not afford the book....PLEASE see if you can order it at the library. It is well worth the effort. The doctor gave us some medication...also very helpful. It's not easy, but try not to let this child damage your relationship with your spouse or other children. Keep some space/distance between this child and others if necessary. Spend some quality time with each child. You might find it necessary to use the services of a family counselor. Do you belong to a church? Sometimes they have access to counselors that work on a sliding scale. When you say you don't have the money for school...what do you mean by this? When your children are ready for Kinder or first grade...they can attend for free in public school. Do you have any relatives that might help you with a few school supplies? What about babysitting? You can ask for help with one or two of the children once in a while to help keep things a little calmer. Remember, although it is not easy, you can make a personal choice to be strong and keep a positive attitude. Be creative with reference to solutions. Be a role model for this type of behavior. It seems like your child has much baggage...much going against him. If he has a good role model to emulate...this will help at least a little (maybe more). Do what you can to strengthen yourself. Keep in contact with nice friends and fill your mind with good thoughts. Speak with doctors about your son's condition and use the internet or library to do research. You said: [I]"And the problem is he thinks hes the one being wrongly done and hes the one causing the chaos for everyone even himself."[/I] I do wonder if this child has a combination of entitlement concerns, low self esteem, as well as some sort of neurobiological condition. This is a nasty combination we have had with our child. She is diagnosis'd with bipolar illness. It's a long shot...but you might want to read up on this diagnosis. There is a famous book called [B]"The Bipolar Child,"[/B] by Dr. Papolus. The [B]"Explosive Child,"[/B] is another good one. (See post by JJJ). All these books are helpful to moms in your situation. Consider letting your child know that he is loved, but at the same time set up BOUNDARIES. Google the words "logical consequences." One thing that I found helped with my child...giving her choices...but using boundaries. For example... What would you like to wear today...Choice A or Choice B? I would hold up two outfits and she would pick. (Otherwise...she would wear something inappropriate). If there is real benefit of going to SSI, you might go ahead with that. Will that give you any money to get some help with him? Can you use the money to see doctors, buy books, school supplies, etc.??? With good parenting, therapy, possibly medication, patience and time...things can get better. Remember...this is not your fault. Since your child is young, you are responsible to educate yourself as best as you can to help your child. You are starting that process and will do a good job. Ultimately, your child will have to make a personal choice to make improvements. Please take good care of yourself and as soon as you are able, please consider a trip to the library to pick up or oder the books mentioned! You'll be glad you did. Wishing you well. [/QUOTE]
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