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Apparently difficult child is now back on his medications
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 576201" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>RE - Thank you so much for your kind words. They made me smile and tear up a little bit too. </p><p></p><p>In a daze - I agree. RE always has excellent advice to give. </p><p></p><p>Suzir - I could probably try and force some sort of phone contact between me and difficult child but I really do want him to feel like he has control over his life and want him to realize that whatever consequences he has are because of his choices, not my influence. He so desperately seems to want to be a grown up and seems to think he can handle everything that means. </p><p></p><p>I am still considering requesting a visit/call once a week but if he is noncompliant then I think I may have to just go the route of letting him contact me. I am sure everyone here understands how hard of a decision that is. </p><p></p><p>I was talking to husband and I think I won't tell difficult child if I am going to go that route. That way if I cave in he won't know I caved. </p><p></p><p>On a positive note - I did see him today. easy child and I stopped at McD's for lunch after church and he happened to be working. I'm happy he still has his job although he didn't look like he was putting in much effort and his boss was giving him dirty looks so I didn't talk to him too long. He was working in the restaurant lobby cleaning tables and such. He asked me for a new pair of glasses and I told him I'd think about it. I got his health card # off of him for the new benefits plan we are getting started. Then I told him that if we did get new glasses they had to be under $200 because the health plan only covers $200 every 2 years per person. His last pair cost me about $350 and he lost them after 2 months. His prescription is very low and most people would say he doesn't need glasses so I didn't get him another pair. </p><p></p><p>I talked to him about some stuff that we've been up to but he wasn't the least bit interested. He never even really responded to me but instead just started talking about himself. He said he had an appointment. today to look at a roommate situation with a bunch of guys. Kind of scary because these are people he doesn't know. $500 a month for a room. ugh. And I know he's blown over $600 of the money we gave him for rent in November. He might barely have enough to pay first and last. Still hasn't bothered to apply for social services. My initial thought was "How is he going to pay his rent?" Then when he showed me his new phone case and told me he'd been to the movies again (at least the 2nd time this month) so I decided I'd stop worrying because he isn't worried. He's having more fun than me. </p><p></p><p>Think I'll call him tonight and ask how the apartment appointment went and then tell him I'm disappointed he didn't contact me to get together this weekend. I'll tell him I'd like more contact and then leave the ball in his court and see what he does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 576201, member: 14356"] RE - Thank you so much for your kind words. They made me smile and tear up a little bit too. In a daze - I agree. RE always has excellent advice to give. Suzir - I could probably try and force some sort of phone contact between me and difficult child but I really do want him to feel like he has control over his life and want him to realize that whatever consequences he has are because of his choices, not my influence. He so desperately seems to want to be a grown up and seems to think he can handle everything that means. I am still considering requesting a visit/call once a week but if he is noncompliant then I think I may have to just go the route of letting him contact me. I am sure everyone here understands how hard of a decision that is. I was talking to husband and I think I won't tell difficult child if I am going to go that route. That way if I cave in he won't know I caved. On a positive note - I did see him today. easy child and I stopped at McD's for lunch after church and he happened to be working. I'm happy he still has his job although he didn't look like he was putting in much effort and his boss was giving him dirty looks so I didn't talk to him too long. He was working in the restaurant lobby cleaning tables and such. He asked me for a new pair of glasses and I told him I'd think about it. I got his health card # off of him for the new benefits plan we are getting started. Then I told him that if we did get new glasses they had to be under $200 because the health plan only covers $200 every 2 years per person. His last pair cost me about $350 and he lost them after 2 months. His prescription is very low and most people would say he doesn't need glasses so I didn't get him another pair. I talked to him about some stuff that we've been up to but he wasn't the least bit interested. He never even really responded to me but instead just started talking about himself. He said he had an appointment. today to look at a roommate situation with a bunch of guys. Kind of scary because these are people he doesn't know. $500 a month for a room. ugh. And I know he's blown over $600 of the money we gave him for rent in November. He might barely have enough to pay first and last. Still hasn't bothered to apply for social services. My initial thought was "How is he going to pay his rent?" Then when he showed me his new phone case and told me he'd been to the movies again (at least the 2nd time this month) so I decided I'd stop worrying because he isn't worried. He's having more fun than me. Think I'll call him tonight and ask how the apartment appointment went and then tell him I'm disappointed he didn't contact me to get together this weekend. I'll tell him I'd like more contact and then leave the ball in his court and see what he does. [/QUOTE]
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