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Apparently, easy child 2 isn't going to summer school. (another vent)
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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 158639" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>husband and her mom are supposed to have joint custody, with mom having primary physical. In this state, as a step-parent, I have equal standing as the parent to act on her behalf. </p><p> </p><p>But her mom has done nothing to attempt to include husband in anything...goes to great lengths to exclude him, actually. We started asking easy child to bring her school bag on weekends, and mom will go so far as to clean out the bag before she comes...</p><p> </p><p>We've requested the evaluation at the school. We'll see what recommendations they have going forward. She qualifies for an IEP but her mom won't give them the info...I have copies of the evaluations now and we are prepared to do that now, so long as easy child will stick to wanting the help. Right now, that's the problem...she wants help, so long as it doesn't mean going to extra school. </p><p> </p><p>We had the talk with her last night, and I don't know if it sunk in or not...her mom is gonna be IRATE with us when she finds out we've already set the ball in motion. easy child has GOT to stand up for herself on this, and I'm not sure she will. We will see come time to get on the bus from mom's house next week.</p><p> </p><p>We told her we were only willing to help her as much as she's willing to help herself - part of helping herself is getting help when and where she can - ie summer school. She claimed to not understand, so husband related it to us making her paint a wall while we sat in a chair and did nothing. She thought that might make her mad. He explained that we've been talking to school trying to get her help only to find out she's sitting on her butt not willing to go to summer school. It might have gotten thru to her, but I don't know. </p><p> </p><p>She's incredibally sheltered and not real in touch with the real world. I realize she's 11, but she has no concept or grasp of any sort of future, or self maintenance. Ask her what she wants to be when she grows up and she answers with whatever job her half-sister, that she rarely sees, has at the time...right now, its walmart cashier (half sister is going to a private college on a full ride scholarship for academics...something easy child will probably never acheive, but has NO concept of...NONE). The thought that at some point she will need a job to suport herself has never entered her head, let alone the idea that not all jobs pay enough to support particular lifestyles. Her mom is silver-spooned, works factory jobs and this or that, but her parents are wealthy and hand her everything...so she makes $24 grand a year with easy child and his three kids under 10, and she has a new truck, new van, 10 year old brick ranch home on an acreage, jet skis, camper, new laptop every year or two, takes a full 2 week vacation in a resort without kids each year, and this year bought a 60 foot greenhouse. easy child's not exactly experiencing the real world down there. Ask what kind of car is her dream car and its her mom's new mini-van. Suggest that at some point it will be old and she'll have to get one of her own and its a blank stare. There's just not a lot to work with there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 158639, member: 1848"] husband and her mom are supposed to have joint custody, with mom having primary physical. In this state, as a step-parent, I have equal standing as the parent to act on her behalf. But her mom has done nothing to attempt to include husband in anything...goes to great lengths to exclude him, actually. We started asking easy child to bring her school bag on weekends, and mom will go so far as to clean out the bag before she comes... We've requested the evaluation at the school. We'll see what recommendations they have going forward. She qualifies for an IEP but her mom won't give them the info...I have copies of the evaluations now and we are prepared to do that now, so long as easy child will stick to wanting the help. Right now, that's the problem...she wants help, so long as it doesn't mean going to extra school. We had the talk with her last night, and I don't know if it sunk in or not...her mom is gonna be IRATE with us when she finds out we've already set the ball in motion. easy child has GOT to stand up for herself on this, and I'm not sure she will. We will see come time to get on the bus from mom's house next week. We told her we were only willing to help her as much as she's willing to help herself - part of helping herself is getting help when and where she can - ie summer school. She claimed to not understand, so husband related it to us making her paint a wall while we sat in a chair and did nothing. She thought that might make her mad. He explained that we've been talking to school trying to get her help only to find out she's sitting on her butt not willing to go to summer school. It might have gotten thru to her, but I don't know. She's incredibally sheltered and not real in touch with the real world. I realize she's 11, but she has no concept or grasp of any sort of future, or self maintenance. Ask her what she wants to be when she grows up and she answers with whatever job her half-sister, that she rarely sees, has at the time...right now, its walmart cashier (half sister is going to a private college on a full ride scholarship for academics...something easy child will probably never acheive, but has NO concept of...NONE). The thought that at some point she will need a job to suport herself has never entered her head, let alone the idea that not all jobs pay enough to support particular lifestyles. Her mom is silver-spooned, works factory jobs and this or that, but her parents are wealthy and hand her everything...so she makes $24 grand a year with easy child and his three kids under 10, and she has a new truck, new van, 10 year old brick ranch home on an acreage, jet skis, camper, new laptop every year or two, takes a full 2 week vacation in a resort without kids each year, and this year bought a 60 foot greenhouse. easy child's not exactly experiencing the real world down there. Ask what kind of car is her dream car and its her mom's new mini-van. Suggest that at some point it will be old and she'll have to get one of her own and its a blank stare. There's just not a lot to work with there. [/QUOTE]
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