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<blockquote data-quote="therese005us" data-source="post: 298159" data-attributes="member: 7416"><p>I think there are a lot of us here who apparently run hotels!</p><p>My 19yo decided this morning that he didn't want to do jobs all day! so, I asked him how long did he want to do a few jobs (bearing in mind that he didn't get up till 9.00am. He said an hour. I said that wasn't good enough, I didn't want him laying about watching t.v. all day.</p><p> </p><p>We constantly get the " i pay board, i shouldn't have to do jobs". So, today I said that since he didn't want to do jobs, that's fine. I still feel he ought to do something to contribute to the family. However, he could instead pay $x for each meal, $x for petrol to each activity, $x for electricity and since he wasn't doing jobs could he leave now (he lives in the caravan onthe property). When he asked for water, 'sorry, not available from the house' (there are several taps in the laundry and outside near his van) shower - sorry, not available; food - you'll have to buy your own now....</p><p> </p><p>He went off to riing a job he'd been referred to, 3 days work with a builder. I told him, since it's so close, he could ride his bike one way and I'll pick up. He wanted the fellow to pick him up. Sorry, says he, it's a pity you don't want to ride, i had 3 days work for you..... </p><p> </p><p>I wanted to try and get him more motivated and responsible for his life. It's only 12km to the job and cool in the mornings now, so not a big ask.... or is it?</p><p> </p><p>Later, he came and said he wanted to talk. ... Could he have the oral medication (risperadol) he felt he needed it. He feels his life is messed up, he got a little emotional...</p><p> </p><p>He only talked a little bit, that by now he should have a full time job, a house of his own etc. I told him, we're not trying to control him, but help him grow - he's a man now. He should start to put aside childish things (Playstation, watching tv ALL day etc) and start doing man things like being responsible for himself, shaving and all that goes with looking for a job. He wants to do both.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, we're running a hotel, a hostel, a medical ward, a counselling room, because we love our kids. However, sometimes we just wish we could close a couple of these facilities, don't we? </p><p> </p><p>We're in it for the long haul, and Marg's right, lots of our kids will get married and live very useful lives, others might just need the hotelier; counsellor; nurses; etc to keep them going... and we'll be there, won't we?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="therese005us, post: 298159, member: 7416"] I think there are a lot of us here who apparently run hotels! My 19yo decided this morning that he didn't want to do jobs all day! so, I asked him how long did he want to do a few jobs (bearing in mind that he didn't get up till 9.00am. He said an hour. I said that wasn't good enough, I didn't want him laying about watching t.v. all day. We constantly get the " i pay board, i shouldn't have to do jobs". So, today I said that since he didn't want to do jobs, that's fine. I still feel he ought to do something to contribute to the family. However, he could instead pay $x for each meal, $x for petrol to each activity, $x for electricity and since he wasn't doing jobs could he leave now (he lives in the caravan onthe property). When he asked for water, 'sorry, not available from the house' (there are several taps in the laundry and outside near his van) shower - sorry, not available; food - you'll have to buy your own now.... He went off to riing a job he'd been referred to, 3 days work with a builder. I told him, since it's so close, he could ride his bike one way and I'll pick up. He wanted the fellow to pick him up. Sorry, says he, it's a pity you don't want to ride, i had 3 days work for you..... I wanted to try and get him more motivated and responsible for his life. It's only 12km to the job and cool in the mornings now, so not a big ask.... or is it? Later, he came and said he wanted to talk. ... Could he have the oral medication (risperadol) he felt he needed it. He feels his life is messed up, he got a little emotional... He only talked a little bit, that by now he should have a full time job, a house of his own etc. I told him, we're not trying to control him, but help him grow - he's a man now. He should start to put aside childish things (Playstation, watching tv ALL day etc) and start doing man things like being responsible for himself, shaving and all that goes with looking for a job. He wants to do both. Yes, we're running a hotel, a hostel, a medical ward, a counselling room, because we love our kids. However, sometimes we just wish we could close a couple of these facilities, don't we? We're in it for the long haul, and Marg's right, lots of our kids will get married and live very useful lives, others might just need the hotelier; counsellor; nurses; etc to keep them going... and we'll be there, won't we? [/QUOTE]
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