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Yesterday morning the school called to tell us Major was threatening suicide. They had also called the crisis team out. They said he told them he had a bad morning at home and was adamant about wanting to die. This took place at around 10 AM.
The story I heard and believe to be true is Major has been being teased on the bus, nothing that bad, a strange nickname, but it offends HIM. He then was at art and a child was saying mean things to him because he was talking. He told the teacher but she just told him to ignore it. 1) ignoring isnt my difficult childs strong point 2) The child was wishing my kid dead and saying he would throw a party!
My son yells at the kid and gets in trouble. At which point he is frustrated beyond belief, feels totally unprotected and says that he wants to die. They said he had a plan, he was going to get a knife how?, he said he would buy one. He has no money and no access to a store and this was his plan
So I meet with the crisis psy evaluator and she says I can take him home, we both agree it is something he said while under stress and in the moment and that with his dxes it will happen. She gives me some useful information for when and if I dont feel I can keep him safe and a name of a counselor that Ive heard of 3 times now and I just get the feeling that is where we are being lead to by the powers that be. So, I feel a little hopeful.
Then I go in to get Major back in school, a requirement from the school. Because of my social anxiety, Im shaking like a leaf and I keep trying to tell myself to breathe right, I hate this weakness in me, I know others can see and hear it in my voice. I tell the principal about the teasing/bullying. He says the classic first Im hearing about it. I try to tell him that the teachers that view my son as a behavior problem are wrong. That he needs to be understood and helped, not punished. I used an example about his Sci teacher saying that Major cant keep a notebook but she isnt going to do it for him, that he wont learn to keep a notebook then. I tell him that they know he has organization and memory problems and he may never be able to keep a notebook, I ask do we punish blind kids for not learning to read? I watch his eyes glaze over. He doesnt get it. Im so glad Major is done with this school now even though a lot of the teachers did understand him you only need 1 hardliner to hurt my kid.
Major will not show sadness or fear, it all comes out as anger. Some teachers wont look beyond the anger to see the scared, miserable kid. They come at the anger with their own anger, heck, I know this and sometimes I lose it and add my own anger to whatever situation we are in. Poor kid.
Next year Major is in small class sp ed except for specials. They had better understand my kid or I will be home schooling. Oh, the evaluator did say we are doing a great job it felt so good to hear something positive I could have cried.
All this going on and we still managed to get the hamster to school for show and tell, LOL.
The story I heard and believe to be true is Major has been being teased on the bus, nothing that bad, a strange nickname, but it offends HIM. He then was at art and a child was saying mean things to him because he was talking. He told the teacher but she just told him to ignore it. 1) ignoring isnt my difficult childs strong point 2) The child was wishing my kid dead and saying he would throw a party!
My son yells at the kid and gets in trouble. At which point he is frustrated beyond belief, feels totally unprotected and says that he wants to die. They said he had a plan, he was going to get a knife how?, he said he would buy one. He has no money and no access to a store and this was his plan
So I meet with the crisis psy evaluator and she says I can take him home, we both agree it is something he said while under stress and in the moment and that with his dxes it will happen. She gives me some useful information for when and if I dont feel I can keep him safe and a name of a counselor that Ive heard of 3 times now and I just get the feeling that is where we are being lead to by the powers that be. So, I feel a little hopeful.
Then I go in to get Major back in school, a requirement from the school. Because of my social anxiety, Im shaking like a leaf and I keep trying to tell myself to breathe right, I hate this weakness in me, I know others can see and hear it in my voice. I tell the principal about the teasing/bullying. He says the classic first Im hearing about it. I try to tell him that the teachers that view my son as a behavior problem are wrong. That he needs to be understood and helped, not punished. I used an example about his Sci teacher saying that Major cant keep a notebook but she isnt going to do it for him, that he wont learn to keep a notebook then. I tell him that they know he has organization and memory problems and he may never be able to keep a notebook, I ask do we punish blind kids for not learning to read? I watch his eyes glaze over. He doesnt get it. Im so glad Major is done with this school now even though a lot of the teachers did understand him you only need 1 hardliner to hurt my kid.
Major will not show sadness or fear, it all comes out as anger. Some teachers wont look beyond the anger to see the scared, miserable kid. They come at the anger with their own anger, heck, I know this and sometimes I lose it and add my own anger to whatever situation we are in. Poor kid.
Next year Major is in small class sp ed except for specials. They had better understand my kid or I will be home schooling. Oh, the evaluator did say we are doing a great job it felt so good to hear something positive I could have cried.
All this going on and we still managed to get the hamster to school for show and tell, LOL.
Like you said, it is what lead me to homeschool-ing him. However, I believe that in retrospect - that was not a good decision. It is all so hard.
