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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 641822" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>My answers were all 'No' apart from to these questions:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, I do this, I'm trying to do it less. You could add "Do you get annoyed with yourself when ...you put everybody else etc...'</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, yes I do this, I'm trying to do it less.</p><p></p><p>e.g.</p><p>Today I spoke to my son. We spoke about him coming here on Dec 27th as arranged. I said I'd get him a new pair of boots so he could change out of his filthy muddy ones before he got in my car. He started going on about how it makes him feel uncomfortable when he's expected to wash/shower/put clean clothes on when he's in my house. He didn't want me to buy him new boots. He didn't want to have to change out of his filthy muddy ones, because it made him feel "uncomfortable". Eh? What about how uncomfortable <em>I </em>feel with his filth in my car and in my house? I used to put up with this and stress and ruminate and lie awake. I'm not doing it any more. If he can't get clean then he can't get in my car and can't come in my house. <em>My needs are as important as his</em>.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I like myself sometimes, but I don't think I love myself. I feel unimportant and insignificant a lot of the time. This is nothing to do with anyone else though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 641822, member: 17650"] My answers were all 'No' apart from to these questions: Yes, I do this, I'm trying to do it less. You could add "Do you get annoyed with yourself when ...you put everybody else etc...' Yes, yes I do this, I'm trying to do it less. e.g. Today I spoke to my son. We spoke about him coming here on Dec 27th as arranged. I said I'd get him a new pair of boots so he could change out of his filthy muddy ones before he got in my car. He started going on about how it makes him feel uncomfortable when he's expected to wash/shower/put clean clothes on when he's in my house. He didn't want me to buy him new boots. He didn't want to have to change out of his filthy muddy ones, because it made him feel "uncomfortable". Eh? What about how uncomfortable [I]I [/I]feel with his filth in my car and in my house? I used to put up with this and stress and ruminate and lie awake. I'm not doing it any more. If he can't get clean then he can't get in my car and can't come in my house. [I]My needs are as important as his[/I]. I like myself sometimes, but I don't think I love myself. I feel unimportant and insignificant a lot of the time. This is nothing to do with anyone else though. [/QUOTE]
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