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Argh! easy child wants to run with-the bulls
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 600951" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a different perspective.</p><p></p><p>There is NO WAY you can stop her forever. None. Nada. Remember, we can only control ourselves. Once she is out of college and off your dime, you will have absolutely no leverage to stop her.</p><p></p><p>My son skydove and did not tell me about it. Do you prefer that? He told me years later. He was only nineteen.</p><p></p><p>I would not punish my adult child for doing something that is basically pretty safe and that I knew I can never stop forever. She will probably do it anyway and not tell you, if she is committed to trying it. Lots of teens do. Actually one experience skydiving did it for my son. He never wanted to do it again, but, as he said, "I tried it. That was the point."</p><p></p><p>I am not a fan of trying to tell grown adult kids who are doing well what they can and can not do. Nor do I think we can do that. They are not living with us and many things happen that we don't know about. I'd rather my kids not be afraid to talk to me about anything, even if their ideas sometimes make me shiver inside.</p><p></p><p>JMO <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 600951, member: 1550"] I have a different perspective. There is NO WAY you can stop her forever. None. Nada. Remember, we can only control ourselves. Once she is out of college and off your dime, you will have absolutely no leverage to stop her. My son skydove and did not tell me about it. Do you prefer that? He told me years later. He was only nineteen. I would not punish my adult child for doing something that is basically pretty safe and that I knew I can never stop forever. She will probably do it anyway and not tell you, if she is committed to trying it. Lots of teens do. Actually one experience skydiving did it for my son. He never wanted to do it again, but, as he said, "I tried it. That was the point." I am not a fan of trying to tell grown adult kids who are doing well what they can and can not do. Nor do I think we can do that. They are not living with us and many things happen that we don't know about. I'd rather my kids not be afraid to talk to me about anything, even if their ideas sometimes make me shiver inside. JMO :) [/QUOTE]
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