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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 238991" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Deni, </p><p> </p><p>Okay first off - you're not alone and you DO have support right here as a Mom. </p><p> </p><p>I would imagine that IAD will come in and interview you regarding this matter if they are the ones that are investigating this? If so - I would take the time off that I have to put together a complete history with any papertrail type of evidence from school resource officers, to court, to your psychiatrist (have him sign a waiver to talk about difficult child) and include that in your history so that a call could be made FROM the IAD person to the psychiatrist regarding the difficulty of trying to parent your son. </p><p> </p><p>If you have gone to any school meetings and he got kicked out or suspened get THAT documentation, Get a list of ALL medications and WHY you have had your son on. Get your other son to write a statement about what it's like to live with your son. </p><p> </p><p>GIVE THEM (IAD) a copy of this. Also get into family court the minute you can get all that together and file what is called a petition of incorrigibility. This is better than severing your parental rights. It still gives you some sayso in any treatment. Right now you are mad, and hurt, and frustrated. In three years or ten years you dont' want regrets that your son would think (in his mind and no other) that the "trade off" was your job for him. He's sick and needs help. You need counseling too - this is abuse and no one should have to face that alone. </p><p> </p><p>Keep a copy of all the information you have - about your sons history and a time line - a time line is a GREAT tool for psychiatrists to help your son and know what has and has not worked. Include the start date that you noticed or suspected any behaviors out of the "said norm" and then treatments, medications, doctors, therapists, family counseling, etc. That's a great way to show courts and psychiatrists that YES I have tried to help this child and NO.....he isnt' just like he is because my x says I messed him up because I am a working Mother and didn't have time for him. </p><p> </p><p>BOLOGNA - there are tons of latchkey kids out there that have no parental supervision and listen to their parents -(mostly) so yeah - tell your x to take a long ride on the pity train now because come what my - you did your best and he'll see....in time. They all do. </p><p> </p><p>Dont' sweat the small stuff - </p><p> </p><p>When your son goes to court this morning I'm sure he'll be offered a Public Defender. If you can get in to talk to them - give THEM a copy of that compilation or at least ASK them if there is a way that you can get the kid into that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - ASAP instead of CPS /foster home or dads. </p><p> </p><p>He doesn't need to be at Dads - it's just a NEW place to go MESS UP and get into MORE trouble - he needs to be taken to base (no medications) observed by a trained staff and have a treatment plan in place to ensure he's getting the best help he can get and supervision. NOT going to get that at his dads. </p><p> </p><p>I'd use your cop like influences to get anyone to hear you about GETTING THAT KID INTO THE Residential Treatment Center (RTC) NOW. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs for the best - </p><p>Deep breaths</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 238991, member: 4964"] Deni, Okay first off - you're not alone and you DO have support right here as a Mom. I would imagine that IAD will come in and interview you regarding this matter if they are the ones that are investigating this? If so - I would take the time off that I have to put together a complete history with any papertrail type of evidence from school resource officers, to court, to your psychiatrist (have him sign a waiver to talk about difficult child) and include that in your history so that a call could be made FROM the IAD person to the psychiatrist regarding the difficulty of trying to parent your son. If you have gone to any school meetings and he got kicked out or suspened get THAT documentation, Get a list of ALL medications and WHY you have had your son on. Get your other son to write a statement about what it's like to live with your son. GIVE THEM (IAD) a copy of this. Also get into family court the minute you can get all that together and file what is called a petition of incorrigibility. This is better than severing your parental rights. It still gives you some sayso in any treatment. Right now you are mad, and hurt, and frustrated. In three years or ten years you dont' want regrets that your son would think (in his mind and no other) that the "trade off" was your job for him. He's sick and needs help. You need counseling too - this is abuse and no one should have to face that alone. Keep a copy of all the information you have - about your sons history and a time line - a time line is a GREAT tool for psychiatrists to help your son and know what has and has not worked. Include the start date that you noticed or suspected any behaviors out of the "said norm" and then treatments, medications, doctors, therapists, family counseling, etc. That's a great way to show courts and psychiatrists that YES I have tried to help this child and NO.....he isnt' just like he is because my x says I messed him up because I am a working Mother and didn't have time for him. BOLOGNA - there are tons of latchkey kids out there that have no parental supervision and listen to their parents -(mostly) so yeah - tell your x to take a long ride on the pity train now because come what my - you did your best and he'll see....in time. They all do. Dont' sweat the small stuff - When your son goes to court this morning I'm sure he'll be offered a Public Defender. If you can get in to talk to them - give THEM a copy of that compilation or at least ASK them if there is a way that you can get the kid into that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - ASAP instead of CPS /foster home or dads. He doesn't need to be at Dads - it's just a NEW place to go MESS UP and get into MORE trouble - he needs to be taken to base (no medications) observed by a trained staff and have a treatment plan in place to ensure he's getting the best help he can get and supervision. NOT going to get that at his dads. I'd use your cop like influences to get anyone to hear you about GETTING THAT KID INTO THE Residential Treatment Center (RTC) NOW. Hugs for the best - Deep breaths Star [/QUOTE]
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