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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 624054" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Bluebell I just came across this post, I usually hang out in the Substance Abuse forum but just stopped by and read this. I haven;t read any of your other posts but from this one I can tell you it brought me right back to when my daughter was 17. The summer between elementary and high school she met kids from the high school that smoked pot and that was the beginning of about seven years of h*ll. I can't tell you how many times she was charged with disorderly conduct, delinquency, underage drinking, drug use, etc.</p><p></p><p>I lost count of how many times we had to go to juvenile court with her. We too had to hire an attorney each time and pay the fines. My husband is an attorney so he wouldn't let her go to court without one, but we never tried to get her out of consequences and were hoping something the court did would make an impression on her. Each time they read the history and talked to the prosecutor and defense attorney and they told us that we were doing as good a job if better than they could so they left her in our supervision. Great thanks magistrate. One time was different. Our attorney who happend to go to law school with husband and was very aware of how hard we were trying to turn her around, spoke with the magistrate unbenown to us, and when her case came up the magistrate ordered her into detention for the weekend. I was out of town with my other daughter at the time and my husband called to tell me. My knees buckled and I cried. He described how she had to take off her jewelry and belt and she hugged him and had tears in her eyes.</p><p></p><p>When my husband picked her up early Monday morning she was different. For an entire year things seemed fine. And then they began to escalate. Her drinking and pot use became frequent and her grades were awful and she cut school and hung out with all the druggies. It got worse, she lost jobs, stole money from us, stayed out all night many times, and was having sex with any guy that she could. </p><p></p><p>When she turned 18 we kicked her out of the house. She came back several times and promised to do better but never did. We gave her a choice of going into treatment or finding another place to live. She chose treatment, Came home after 60 days and relapsed. We kicked her out again and three months later she entered a sober living house. She stayed for six months and got her own apartment and continued drinking and smoking pot until she was homeless and starving. For whatever reason I still don't understand, she finally turned her life around. She stopped smoking pot and drank much less. She got a job and moved in with a guy she met who is now her boyfriend and she is doing well. </p><p></p><p>difficult child traded going to college and getting a good job and becoming financially secure for few years of drunken/high fun. She knows that now. She will be living with those consequences for many many years.</p><p></p><p>The only thing that got me through those years was this board and my wonderful husband. I am sorry you are going through this. What should be the best time of your son's life is being spend making some decisions that he may not be able to get out of. I hope he wakes up and sees that the kids he is hanging with are losers and everyone doesn't do it and if he contines to do it when he is 18 the consequences will be a lot tougher.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 624054, member: 59"] Bluebell I just came across this post, I usually hang out in the Substance Abuse forum but just stopped by and read this. I haven;t read any of your other posts but from this one I can tell you it brought me right back to when my daughter was 17. The summer between elementary and high school she met kids from the high school that smoked pot and that was the beginning of about seven years of h*ll. I can't tell you how many times she was charged with disorderly conduct, delinquency, underage drinking, drug use, etc. I lost count of how many times we had to go to juvenile court with her. We too had to hire an attorney each time and pay the fines. My husband is an attorney so he wouldn't let her go to court without one, but we never tried to get her out of consequences and were hoping something the court did would make an impression on her. Each time they read the history and talked to the prosecutor and defense attorney and they told us that we were doing as good a job if better than they could so they left her in our supervision. Great thanks magistrate. One time was different. Our attorney who happend to go to law school with husband and was very aware of how hard we were trying to turn her around, spoke with the magistrate unbenown to us, and when her case came up the magistrate ordered her into detention for the weekend. I was out of town with my other daughter at the time and my husband called to tell me. My knees buckled and I cried. He described how she had to take off her jewelry and belt and she hugged him and had tears in her eyes. When my husband picked her up early Monday morning she was different. For an entire year things seemed fine. And then they began to escalate. Her drinking and pot use became frequent and her grades were awful and she cut school and hung out with all the druggies. It got worse, she lost jobs, stole money from us, stayed out all night many times, and was having sex with any guy that she could. When she turned 18 we kicked her out of the house. She came back several times and promised to do better but never did. We gave her a choice of going into treatment or finding another place to live. She chose treatment, Came home after 60 days and relapsed. We kicked her out again and three months later she entered a sober living house. She stayed for six months and got her own apartment and continued drinking and smoking pot until she was homeless and starving. For whatever reason I still don't understand, she finally turned her life around. She stopped smoking pot and drank much less. She got a job and moved in with a guy she met who is now her boyfriend and she is doing well. difficult child traded going to college and getting a good job and becoming financially secure for few years of drunken/high fun. She knows that now. She will be living with those consequences for many many years. The only thing that got me through those years was this board and my wonderful husband. I am sorry you are going through this. What should be the best time of your son's life is being spend making some decisions that he may not be able to get out of. I hope he wakes up and sees that the kids he is hanging with are losers and everyone doesn't do it and if he contines to do it when he is 18 the consequences will be a lot tougher. [/QUOTE]
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