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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 625891" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p><em><strong>Who does this? Who kicks their son's drunk 18 year old friend out on the street and tells their kid they are getting a restraining order for them on their 18th birthday? I cannot believe this is my life. </strong></em></p><p></p><p></p><p>Who does this? I would. What right does this kid have at your house being drunk and what gall does your son have slapping his family around? I also probably would have called the cops on your son for shoving everyone around BEFORE your hub slapped him. That was super-not-smart on his part.</p><p></p><p>If this is your life, your son has serious troubles and should not be coddled. Have you ever gone to Al-Anon?I would not help your son if he ends up in jail. He has quite a bad attitude and is heading for serious prison if he doesn't realize it's a big deal. A GED will not help him if he is in jail or prison. His behavior has to change before he can live any sort of normal life. And you shouldn't in my opinion make it easy for him to act so thuggish. Tough love.</p><p></p><p>Because of son's violence and drunkenness in my home, if he were mine, all his money would have been cut off long ago. I did this to my daughter and she actually got a job!! And any electronics I'd stop paying for. The car? I'd be terrified he'd get killed in a car accident and driving my vehicles would be off the table. I would never give him a present for a GED. Or for anything with how he is acting now. I am unclear, but hope he isn't going to get a vacation which he will ruin out of his horrible behavior. </p><p></p><p>You have got to learn detaching with love. If not, your own life will be destroyed and his won't be any better. You will both go down. Why get him a lawyer?</p><p></p><p>Why do friends (and his friends sound more like demons than friends) come over at all on a weeknight or at all if this is how they behave? My daughter was banned from having any of her "friends" in my house. Yes, MY house. YOUR house. YOUR house, YOUR rules. If he takes control, not only will you have no peace; your son will get the idea that nobody can touch him...he can be a criminal and nothing will happen to him. A bad message.</p><p></p><p>At eighteen I finally had to make daughter leave. You may have to do the same thing.</p><p></p><p>husband should go for anger management.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. I know it's hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 625891, member: 1550"] [I][B]Who does this? Who kicks their son's drunk 18 year old friend out on the street and tells their kid they are getting a restraining order for them on their 18th birthday? I cannot believe this is my life. [/B][/I] Who does this? I would. What right does this kid have at your house being drunk and what gall does your son have slapping his family around? I also probably would have called the cops on your son for shoving everyone around BEFORE your hub slapped him. That was super-not-smart on his part. If this is your life, your son has serious troubles and should not be coddled. Have you ever gone to Al-Anon?I would not help your son if he ends up in jail. He has quite a bad attitude and is heading for serious prison if he doesn't realize it's a big deal. A GED will not help him if he is in jail or prison. His behavior has to change before he can live any sort of normal life. And you shouldn't in my opinion make it easy for him to act so thuggish. Tough love. Because of son's violence and drunkenness in my home, if he were mine, all his money would have been cut off long ago. I did this to my daughter and she actually got a job!! And any electronics I'd stop paying for. The car? I'd be terrified he'd get killed in a car accident and driving my vehicles would be off the table. I would never give him a present for a GED. Or for anything with how he is acting now. I am unclear, but hope he isn't going to get a vacation which he will ruin out of his horrible behavior. You have got to learn detaching with love. If not, your own life will be destroyed and his won't be any better. You will both go down. Why get him a lawyer? Why do friends (and his friends sound more like demons than friends) come over at all on a weeknight or at all if this is how they behave? My daughter was banned from having any of her "friends" in my house. Yes, MY house. YOUR house. YOUR house, YOUR rules. If he takes control, not only will you have no peace; your son will get the idea that nobody can touch him...he can be a criminal and nothing will happen to him. A bad message. At eighteen I finally had to make daughter leave. You may have to do the same thing. husband should go for anger management. Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. I know it's hard. [/QUOTE]
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