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<blockquote data-quote="KrisfromNJ" data-source="post: 626003" data-attributes="member: 17953"><p>I went through this very thing. I learned the hard way. If difficult child requires or is recommended to get a lawyer you can "choose" because of your income to get one. You do not have to regardless of your household income get a lawyer. Most states are $30k or more household income, parents are responsible to pay if they choose to get a lawyer. You can represent your child in court instead. If you do get a lawyer though your responsible to pay for one depending upon minor laws.</p><p></p><p>In cases of violence or violent acts or threats of violence, if a mental health diagnosis exists, you can call the police and state the facts and they will transport him to a hospital for observation. At the end of the evaluation there is an involuntary commitment hearing. You can say you do not feel safe having difficult child at your home and refuse to pick the child up due to safety issues with other children or for the fear of your own safety.</p><p></p><p>My Husband held my son against a wall when he was out of control and the division of youth was contacted because my son told his teacher at school. Because my son did this, it opened a case so when I refused to return my son to my home after a violent act they placed him in residential treatment. It was the only way my son got the help because I too could not afford to pay the 75k a year it costs or for programs such as boot camp.</p><p></p><p>It is drastic but I kept custody and did not lose custody. Division of youth does not want custody of your kid, trust me. That is a threat because the hospital wants to turn the bed as quickly as possible. Your a parent that cares. If this is to extreme then once he is placed for observation they must... Must make sure the child has a stable placement prior to releasing them. This could be treatment and other things. But bottom line.... Get it documented every time so you have a history...</p><p></p><p>Be very careful and don't think that those violent acts are just small things. Believe me they can and will eventually escalate. </p><p></p><p>I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out </p><p></p><p></p><p>Kris</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KrisfromNJ, post: 626003, member: 17953"] I went through this very thing. I learned the hard way. If difficult child requires or is recommended to get a lawyer you can "choose" because of your income to get one. You do not have to regardless of your household income get a lawyer. Most states are $30k or more household income, parents are responsible to pay if they choose to get a lawyer. You can represent your child in court instead. If you do get a lawyer though your responsible to pay for one depending upon minor laws. In cases of violence or violent acts or threats of violence, if a mental health diagnosis exists, you can call the police and state the facts and they will transport him to a hospital for observation. At the end of the evaluation there is an involuntary commitment hearing. You can say you do not feel safe having difficult child at your home and refuse to pick the child up due to safety issues with other children or for the fear of your own safety. My Husband held my son against a wall when he was out of control and the division of youth was contacted because my son told his teacher at school. Because my son did this, it opened a case so when I refused to return my son to my home after a violent act they placed him in residential treatment. It was the only way my son got the help because I too could not afford to pay the 75k a year it costs or for programs such as boot camp. It is drastic but I kept custody and did not lose custody. Division of youth does not want custody of your kid, trust me. That is a threat because the hospital wants to turn the bed as quickly as possible. Your a parent that cares. If this is to extreme then once he is placed for observation they must... Must make sure the child has a stable placement prior to releasing them. This could be treatment and other things. But bottom line.... Get it documented every time so you have a history... Be very careful and don't think that those violent acts are just small things. Believe me they can and will eventually escalate. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out Kris Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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