DazedandConfused
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husband is driving to a neighboring town with Son to pay for, and have Son apologize, for stealing some mechanical pencils from an Office Depot. husband went there to pick up an ink cartridge for my printer. Son apparently wandered off to look at computers.
Anyway, long story short, Son comes home and changes out of his pants. husband (who does the laundry when he's home) found twelve of the pencils in his pocket. So, we confront him and his first story is that he won them in a raffle in his science class (they earn tickets for good behavior). So, I tell him I will email her and ask if that was true. He begins claiming that I don't know her email (she works at the same school district as me, so I simply have to look her up in the staff directory). I show him on my laptop that I got the email address. So, then, the story changes, a friend gave them to him (but I have ways to find out that too). Then, he changes his story again...
Finally, husband says, "Either you fess up or I am driving you directly to the police station". So, he finally does. I don't know what is going to happen. They may call the police. Probably not, though. Honestly, I don't care. I'm so fed up with that boy right now.
He's put our family through Hades this past couple of weeks. Last week, Daughter asked him a simple question, and he exploded calling her filthy names and threatening her. Daughter has had it with him. He's been horrible to her for years and now she wants nothing to do with him anymore. Daughter has always wanted some kind of bond with him, but he's so rude and angry towards her. He's been that way since he was five or six. I have never understood it. Last week was the final straw. Daughter couldn't even stand to be in the same house as him and went and stayed with a friend for a few days.
Last Sunday I invited my Mom over for a nice Sunday dinner. Son has always been very close to my Mom and she adores him. Well, Son had been ramping up for a meltdown all afternoon. I tried to stay calm, and detach, but he just wouldn't stop being so nasty while I'm trying to cook.I thought maybe once my Mom got there, he would stop.
My Mom comes over and he's even nasty to her. Then, Daughter screams that he's tearing our whole family apart. They both start screaming at each other. It was horrible. My Mom was appalled and speechless. I try to keep my difficult child life away from other family and other parts of my life. It just heaps more stress on me when others have to witness it too. I HATE being pitied and I HATE having people give me that "I feel sorry for you" look. My Mom began to cry she was so upset. Son is banned from her home (she lives up the street) for one month. She was crying as she told him because she just doesn't know what else to do. She sees what it does to me and she feels so angry.
So were so many other things.....but I just don't have the energy to write about all of them.
A couple of calls from the school. Just skirted a suspension for a fight, etc., etc.
Oh, and we go to his regular psychiatrist appointment and psychiatrist is out on sick leave and may not return. Apparently, I missed the voice mail they left. So, I have to find another psychiatrist. Just great. I found him barely a year ago. I liked him.
Anyway, long story short, Son comes home and changes out of his pants. husband (who does the laundry when he's home) found twelve of the pencils in his pocket. So, we confront him and his first story is that he won them in a raffle in his science class (they earn tickets for good behavior). So, I tell him I will email her and ask if that was true. He begins claiming that I don't know her email (she works at the same school district as me, so I simply have to look her up in the staff directory). I show him on my laptop that I got the email address. So, then, the story changes, a friend gave them to him (but I have ways to find out that too). Then, he changes his story again...
Finally, husband says, "Either you fess up or I am driving you directly to the police station". So, he finally does. I don't know what is going to happen. They may call the police. Probably not, though. Honestly, I don't care. I'm so fed up with that boy right now.
He's put our family through Hades this past couple of weeks. Last week, Daughter asked him a simple question, and he exploded calling her filthy names and threatening her. Daughter has had it with him. He's been horrible to her for years and now she wants nothing to do with him anymore. Daughter has always wanted some kind of bond with him, but he's so rude and angry towards her. He's been that way since he was five or six. I have never understood it. Last week was the final straw. Daughter couldn't even stand to be in the same house as him and went and stayed with a friend for a few days.
Last Sunday I invited my Mom over for a nice Sunday dinner. Son has always been very close to my Mom and she adores him. Well, Son had been ramping up for a meltdown all afternoon. I tried to stay calm, and detach, but he just wouldn't stop being so nasty while I'm trying to cook.I thought maybe once my Mom got there, he would stop.
My Mom comes over and he's even nasty to her. Then, Daughter screams that he's tearing our whole family apart. They both start screaming at each other. It was horrible. My Mom was appalled and speechless. I try to keep my difficult child life away from other family and other parts of my life. It just heaps more stress on me when others have to witness it too. I HATE being pitied and I HATE having people give me that "I feel sorry for you" look. My Mom began to cry she was so upset. Son is banned from her home (she lives up the street) for one month. She was crying as she told him because she just doesn't know what else to do. She sees what it does to me and she feels so angry.
So were so many other things.....but I just don't have the energy to write about all of them.
A couple of calls from the school. Just skirted a suspension for a fight, etc., etc.
Oh, and we go to his regular psychiatrist appointment and psychiatrist is out on sick leave and may not return. Apparently, I missed the voice mail they left. So, I have to find another psychiatrist. Just great. I found him barely a year ago. I liked him.