Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Aspergers...the diagnosis going away?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 433181" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>"I know that many here don't like labels, but there are benefits. My difficult child has benefited greatly at school from labels. His label got him the early supports that have turned him around both academically and socially. His label got him approval from the insurance company for both a therapist and a psychiatrist. His label got him medications."</p><p></p><p>That makes sense. There can be no blanket dismissal of labels - we live in societies that function with them. My own hesitation about labels is basically a fear that they are not accurate enough, which a lot of the discussion here seems to show, the effect that they potentially have on others' view of the "labelled" - children are so ready to jump on difference and having a label is of course something that makes one different - and a certain fear that giving a label creates a reality that would not otherwise operate: if you treat me like I am excluded and other, I will become excluded and other... This fear may be due to my inexperience in the field, in the sense that maybe when/if J gets his official label of ADHD - I have been told that in any case this will not happen until he is at least 6 - and I have lived with that for a while, I will get to see that he is still just himself, just a little boy with certain difficulties and that others also learn to live with and accept him for who he is, label and all. </p><p></p><p>What does seem to me relevant is the naming of skills that are lacking - in my own son's case, difficulty with change and transitition, difficulty accepting frustration, desire to control and so on. There is no doubt about the reality of these things and the need to address them. These are the things that cause him problems. I personally just feel more comfortable talking about him like that than saying "he has ADHD" or whatever.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 433181, member: 11227"] "I know that many here don't like labels, but there are benefits. My difficult child has benefited greatly at school from labels. His label got him the early supports that have turned him around both academically and socially. His label got him approval from the insurance company for both a therapist and a psychiatrist. His label got him medications." That makes sense. There can be no blanket dismissal of labels - we live in societies that function with them. My own hesitation about labels is basically a fear that they are not accurate enough, which a lot of the discussion here seems to show, the effect that they potentially have on others' view of the "labelled" - children are so ready to jump on difference and having a label is of course something that makes one different - and a certain fear that giving a label creates a reality that would not otherwise operate: if you treat me like I am excluded and other, I will become excluded and other... This fear may be due to my inexperience in the field, in the sense that maybe when/if J gets his official label of ADHD - I have been told that in any case this will not happen until he is at least 6 - and I have lived with that for a while, I will get to see that he is still just himself, just a little boy with certain difficulties and that others also learn to live with and accept him for who he is, label and all. What does seem to me relevant is the naming of skills that are lacking - in my own son's case, difficulty with change and transitition, difficulty accepting frustration, desire to control and so on. There is no doubt about the reality of these things and the need to address them. These are the things that cause him problems. I personally just feel more comfortable talking about him like that than saying "he has ADHD" or whatever. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Aspergers...the diagnosis going away?
Top