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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 573865" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>So strange, I have been reading and re-reading things I used to focus on more (it goes in cycles in my mind) and just happened to be going on sites a little more lately too. Sometimes there are some really good ideas for how to respond to situations that are so counter-intuitive and really work for Q that I go back when he is at a different developmental stage and look for more ideas. </p><p></p><p>It is true that many attachment behaviors can very much look like adhd. Kids with attachment or ptsd histories have an altered brain chemistry and there are medications that some say can help but obviously not cure...but that target the theoretical specific issues that happen with kids who had to scream for hours with no comfort those first months or years. And for sure just a few months can be a cause but it actually can start during the pregnancy if the mother has plans to not keep the baby anyway. (so they say...different chemicals, different level of care and nutrition, etc....)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And we always say traditional therapy doesn't work..... easy explanation... </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>just random things I have been reading...not specifically talking about J here..... </p><p></p><p>It never hurts to look at attachment when working on things anyway. Our kids do have a higher risk, and as normal people, we live through situations that given their already fragile attachment, can compound things. </p><p></p><p>There are crazies out there suggesting drastic things, but I bet many of the things that are on the internet (if you can't find any support there) can at least help give ideas of what to do. I think you do some of them already. I really did do exclusively time in instead of time out with Q. I would not let him escape interaction with me (unless he needed a nap, lol). that was not always fun. (I mean when little, now things are different and I have accepted our level of attachment knowing we are bonded to a degree, he is certainly not an unattached child, but I still celebrate little things like his wanting me to hold his hand for a blood test etc...things he didn't do when little)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 573865, member: 12886"] So strange, I have been reading and re-reading things I used to focus on more (it goes in cycles in my mind) and just happened to be going on sites a little more lately too. Sometimes there are some really good ideas for how to respond to situations that are so counter-intuitive and really work for Q that I go back when he is at a different developmental stage and look for more ideas. It is true that many attachment behaviors can very much look like adhd. Kids with attachment or ptsd histories have an altered brain chemistry and there are medications that some say can help but obviously not cure...but that target the theoretical specific issues that happen with kids who had to scream for hours with no comfort those first months or years. And for sure just a few months can be a cause but it actually can start during the pregnancy if the mother has plans to not keep the baby anyway. (so they say...different chemicals, different level of care and nutrition, etc....) And we always say traditional therapy doesn't work..... easy explanation... just random things I have been reading...not specifically talking about J here..... It never hurts to look at attachment when working on things anyway. Our kids do have a higher risk, and as normal people, we live through situations that given their already fragile attachment, can compound things. There are crazies out there suggesting drastic things, but I bet many of the things that are on the internet (if you can't find any support there) can at least help give ideas of what to do. I think you do some of them already. I really did do exclusively time in instead of time out with Q. I would not let him escape interaction with me (unless he needed a nap, lol). that was not always fun. (I mean when little, now things are different and I have accepted our level of attachment knowing we are bonded to a degree, he is certainly not an unattached child, but I still celebrate little things like his wanting me to hold his hand for a blood test etc...things he didn't do when little) [/QUOTE]
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