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Here we go again!
Okay, this is an offshoot from MWM's thread about her difficult child's obsession with his handheld video game. I get what she said about not really being able to medicate for this, and in her difficult child's case, it's just something they live with.
Here's my problem: husband has his own little obesession and it's not disturbing to him in any way. But it causes a great deal of stress in our relationship.
He's already had the ADHD diagnosis and took medications for that for a while and they helped, and even seemed to distract him (at least outwardly it appeared that way) from his "obsessions".
And last year because we thought he was having panic attacks he started Paxil, and although we later learned they weren't panic attacks (actually seizures) the Paxil did help his overall anxiety and he copes with stress much better than before and he's slightly less obsessed about his "issues" but it's still banging around in his head and still causing some stress between us.
Now that he's on Lamictal for the seizures, his mood is better and he's less reactive and he's better able to communicate things calmly and clearly with me. But that little obsessive thing is still hanging around -- I think this is hardwired now in him. And I'm just wondering out loud here if realistically there's any hope of him letting go of this "thing" voluntarily because it's kinda like our kids with the video games. When they're stressed out, they want to do it more, like it's a calming device. I hate to use the word addiction, but it kinda looks like that in a way. Is it really a maladaptive coping skill related to a neurobehavioral disorder? What?
I guess I'm just a frustrated spouse who's looking for a magic wand to change husband from a difficult child to a easy child! Ha-ha! It's fortunate that he's taken the medications he has, even if it's a back-door way to treat his underlying mood or attentional issues, I just wish he'd be more open to the thought that he has some problems that could use some help.
Has anyone else had an adult in their life who's like a Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)-type difficult child with obsessional issues? How did it affect YOU?
Here's my problem: husband has his own little obesession and it's not disturbing to him in any way. But it causes a great deal of stress in our relationship.
He's already had the ADHD diagnosis and took medications for that for a while and they helped, and even seemed to distract him (at least outwardly it appeared that way) from his "obsessions".
And last year because we thought he was having panic attacks he started Paxil, and although we later learned they weren't panic attacks (actually seizures) the Paxil did help his overall anxiety and he copes with stress much better than before and he's slightly less obsessed about his "issues" but it's still banging around in his head and still causing some stress between us.
Now that he's on Lamictal for the seizures, his mood is better and he's less reactive and he's better able to communicate things calmly and clearly with me. But that little obsessive thing is still hanging around -- I think this is hardwired now in him. And I'm just wondering out loud here if realistically there's any hope of him letting go of this "thing" voluntarily because it's kinda like our kids with the video games. When they're stressed out, they want to do it more, like it's a calming device. I hate to use the word addiction, but it kinda looks like that in a way. Is it really a maladaptive coping skill related to a neurobehavioral disorder? What?
I guess I'm just a frustrated spouse who's looking for a magic wand to change husband from a difficult child to a easy child! Ha-ha! It's fortunate that he's taken the medications he has, even if it's a back-door way to treat his underlying mood or attentional issues, I just wish he'd be more open to the thought that he has some problems that could use some help.
Has anyone else had an adult in their life who's like a Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)-type difficult child with obsessional issues? How did it affect YOU?