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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 245515" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Jana - </p><p> </p><p>I used to "see" Dudes Dad in Dude a lot. I guess I too hoped against gentic hope that these disorders are NOT genetic and learned. Despite seeing similar behaviors in the two I had a really great psychiatrist that would remind me constantly that Dude is his own person and has choices on how to behave AND (more importantly) I was a great Mom doing all I could to find solutions and put the choices in front of my kid. </p><p> </p><p>KEEP IN YOUR MIND - that you ARE doing the best thing that you can do for your child. Whatever the "it" of his behavior is. </p><p> </p><p>It used to annoy me that our psychiatrist would say that because I would bark back that Yes YES....he has choices, but genetically speaking he's @)(#)(!+_%$ and the psychiatrist would shake his head NO NO NO and remind me that his biofather didn't HAVE the choices that my son has been given - BY ME because I AM A GOOD MOM. </p><p> </p><p>So take it for what it is worth - and I still kinda grin when I see the way Dude itches his nose or his eye looks tired when he's thinking hard about something - those are things that remind me of his biofather. I'm glad now that our psychiatrist kept on and on about that with me because now that Dude is 18? I don't seem to remember his biodad so much in his makeup - I see a young man who had a carpy start in life with chemically altered father genes, and brilliant intelligent Mother genes - and choices that he is his own person today. </p><p> </p><p>Also - the underlying story about that psychiatrist statement? If I constantly compared him to his father whether it was verbally or mentally understood? I was giving my child yet another excuse to misbehave. </p><p>UGH -<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>Hugs </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 245515, member: 4964"] Jana - I used to "see" Dudes Dad in Dude a lot. I guess I too hoped against gentic hope that these disorders are NOT genetic and learned. Despite seeing similar behaviors in the two I had a really great psychiatrist that would remind me constantly that Dude is his own person and has choices on how to behave AND (more importantly) I was a great Mom doing all I could to find solutions and put the choices in front of my kid. KEEP IN YOUR MIND - that you ARE doing the best thing that you can do for your child. Whatever the "it" of his behavior is. It used to annoy me that our psychiatrist would say that because I would bark back that Yes YES....he has choices, but genetically speaking he's @)(#)(!+_%$ and the psychiatrist would shake his head NO NO NO and remind me that his biofather didn't HAVE the choices that my son has been given - BY ME because I AM A GOOD MOM. So take it for what it is worth - and I still kinda grin when I see the way Dude itches his nose or his eye looks tired when he's thinking hard about something - those are things that remind me of his biofather. I'm glad now that our psychiatrist kept on and on about that with me because now that Dude is 18? I don't seem to remember his biodad so much in his makeup - I see a young man who had a carpy start in life with chemically altered father genes, and brilliant intelligent Mother genes - and choices that he is his own person today. Also - the underlying story about that psychiatrist statement? If I constantly compared him to his father whether it was verbally or mentally understood? I was giving my child yet another excuse to misbehave. UGH -:raspberry-tounge: Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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