welcometowitsend
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So I am kind of between General Parenting and Parent Emeritus right now. husband and I felt we had no alternative but to ask difficult child to move out. Long story short: He backed us up so far we only had 3 rules left - go to school, don't tell me to f off or call me names, come home on school nights. He couldn't/wouldn't follow them. We told him he could stay here until he found a place but he is gone and seems to be quite happy to be gone.
Anyway, I picked him up yesterday to go to the pediatrician to get his Wellbutrin prescription refilled. difficult child proceeds to tell the pediatrician. stories about how horrible I am and how he is responsible and tries to do everything right but if he isn't perfect I go nuts on him and freak out. Huh? This from the kid who skipped every day last week and told me to f off and told me I was a b**** numerous times.
Don't know if I told you this but the school had the police take him to hospital at the end of September and he was admitted to the psychiatric ward for 6 days for suicidal thoughts. Went over that with the pediatrician. and he asked what the psychiatrist at the hospital said.... difficult child is immature, takes no responsibility for himself and has a huge sense of entitlement - and he's depressed. He got suspended for 2 weeks form school because when the police apprehended him he had a knife on him. So now he has a 'safety plan' at school.
pediatrician. suggests that we go back to the psychiatrist and get another assessment for him. I had called her the week before he went to the hospital with concerns and she didn't think it was necessary to see him again - obviously I was right and she was wrong there. So, we are getting another appointment. for him with the psychiatrist. I'd love to speak to her alone and let her know my thoughts on his behaviour.
I can not understand why he twists things so much. He'll take a normal conversation and tell everyone that I was screeching at him or that I was verbally vicious. He lies all the time - about everything and nothing, things that don't even matter. I asked him if he truly believed what was coming out of his mouth and he said he did. Either way his thinking seems very distorted - I'm just not sure if he is making stuff up or if he really sees things that way.
Here is an example: He missed the bus a couple of weeks ago so I said I would drive him to school. He told me he was going to a friends that night and I said he would need to take the bus home. His response - well, I just won't come home then. I said that wasn't acceptable and he went off on me. "Why are you such a b? It's your fault I slept in, it's your fault you have to drive me to school. etc." I told him if he didn't stop I'd let him off at the nearest bus stop and he could take public transportation to school. He didn't stop so I left him at the bus stop. It was not cold out, he knew where he was and had bus tickets that I'd bought for him. He tells everyone (including me) that I freaked out on him (I never even raised my voice), left him stranded in the freezing cold to wait 1.5 hrs for a bus. Ok, so he exaggerated the situation. But after telling this story several times he changed it yesterday and said he had to hitchhike to school. Told me he didn't have any bus tickets left. So now he is lying about taking the bus or hitchhiking. He is also lying about the bus tickets because he told me a couple of days ago that he still had 1 bus ticket left of the ones I'd bought him. Ugh. There was just no point in lying about it but he does it anyway - this happens all the time. When confronted with the lies he denies or changes the subject - there is no acknowledgement that it doesn't even make sense.
So tired of running around in circles and not getting answers or solutions. So, ADHD, Tourette's for sure. psychiatrist ruled out autism and aspergers and says he is depressed, possibly bipolar. pediatrician says his is ODD. Ugh!
Anyway, I picked him up yesterday to go to the pediatrician to get his Wellbutrin prescription refilled. difficult child proceeds to tell the pediatrician. stories about how horrible I am and how he is responsible and tries to do everything right but if he isn't perfect I go nuts on him and freak out. Huh? This from the kid who skipped every day last week and told me to f off and told me I was a b**** numerous times.
Don't know if I told you this but the school had the police take him to hospital at the end of September and he was admitted to the psychiatric ward for 6 days for suicidal thoughts. Went over that with the pediatrician. and he asked what the psychiatrist at the hospital said.... difficult child is immature, takes no responsibility for himself and has a huge sense of entitlement - and he's depressed. He got suspended for 2 weeks form school because when the police apprehended him he had a knife on him. So now he has a 'safety plan' at school.
pediatrician. suggests that we go back to the psychiatrist and get another assessment for him. I had called her the week before he went to the hospital with concerns and she didn't think it was necessary to see him again - obviously I was right and she was wrong there. So, we are getting another appointment. for him with the psychiatrist. I'd love to speak to her alone and let her know my thoughts on his behaviour.
I can not understand why he twists things so much. He'll take a normal conversation and tell everyone that I was screeching at him or that I was verbally vicious. He lies all the time - about everything and nothing, things that don't even matter. I asked him if he truly believed what was coming out of his mouth and he said he did. Either way his thinking seems very distorted - I'm just not sure if he is making stuff up or if he really sees things that way.
Here is an example: He missed the bus a couple of weeks ago so I said I would drive him to school. He told me he was going to a friends that night and I said he would need to take the bus home. His response - well, I just won't come home then. I said that wasn't acceptable and he went off on me. "Why are you such a b? It's your fault I slept in, it's your fault you have to drive me to school. etc." I told him if he didn't stop I'd let him off at the nearest bus stop and he could take public transportation to school. He didn't stop so I left him at the bus stop. It was not cold out, he knew where he was and had bus tickets that I'd bought for him. He tells everyone (including me) that I freaked out on him (I never even raised my voice), left him stranded in the freezing cold to wait 1.5 hrs for a bus. Ok, so he exaggerated the situation. But after telling this story several times he changed it yesterday and said he had to hitchhike to school. Told me he didn't have any bus tickets left. So now he is lying about taking the bus or hitchhiking. He is also lying about the bus tickets because he told me a couple of days ago that he still had 1 bus ticket left of the ones I'd bought him. Ugh. There was just no point in lying about it but he does it anyway - this happens all the time. When confronted with the lies he denies or changes the subject - there is no acknowledgement that it doesn't even make sense.
So tired of running around in circles and not getting answers or solutions. So, ADHD, Tourette's for sure. psychiatrist ruled out autism and aspergers and says he is depressed, possibly bipolar. pediatrician says his is ODD. Ugh!