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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 303583" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>WOW! I just posted on the other thread.</p><p></p><p>Sadly, it is possibly the best thing that could happen for him to go to a treatment foster home. He may not get the school or classes he wants. He will be in a public school most likely if there is not a bus to his regular school.</p><p></p><p>They won't auth driver's ed. Truthfully he should NOT be behind the wheel of any vehicle. With his disregard for rules and limits and his anger and outbursts he is a recipe for a real tragedy. Someone will get hurt or killed and it probably won't be him, esp if he is abusing substances. And most kids who run away use illegal substances whenever they can.</p><p></p><p>I doubt they will do much real treatment, but they should be more experienced with difficult children. </p><p></p><p>Rather than this being the end for him, it just might be the beginning. Maybe this will be enough to make him straighten up and fly right. Chances are it will not, but you never know. There is always hope.</p><p></p><p>The next 2 weeks you should concentrate on not engaging him. Who needs the battle? In a couple of weeks he will hopefully get the beginning of a rude awakening.</p><p></p><p>PLEASE take this time to recuperate. To heal. To start going to al anon. Maybe to encourage your husband to try AA if he is drinking and locking you out of your room. Hopefully you can start to repair your relationship from the difficult child damage inflicted upon it.</p><p></p><p>REconnect with your daughter. Make time to do something special with her. Even just having coffee in the morning or getting your nails done together. Something.</p><p></p><p>Above all, be gentle and kind and forgiving of yourself. You are NOT at fault here. Your son is making bad decisions and will have to handle the consequences. You did not create this and you cannot fix it alone. Some kids just refuse to let us parent them. My own difficult child did this.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs, and total support for whatever you do!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 303583, member: 1233"] WOW! I just posted on the other thread. Sadly, it is possibly the best thing that could happen for him to go to a treatment foster home. He may not get the school or classes he wants. He will be in a public school most likely if there is not a bus to his regular school. They won't auth driver's ed. Truthfully he should NOT be behind the wheel of any vehicle. With his disregard for rules and limits and his anger and outbursts he is a recipe for a real tragedy. Someone will get hurt or killed and it probably won't be him, esp if he is abusing substances. And most kids who run away use illegal substances whenever they can. I doubt they will do much real treatment, but they should be more experienced with difficult children. Rather than this being the end for him, it just might be the beginning. Maybe this will be enough to make him straighten up and fly right. Chances are it will not, but you never know. There is always hope. The next 2 weeks you should concentrate on not engaging him. Who needs the battle? In a couple of weeks he will hopefully get the beginning of a rude awakening. PLEASE take this time to recuperate. To heal. To start going to al anon. Maybe to encourage your husband to try AA if he is drinking and locking you out of your room. Hopefully you can start to repair your relationship from the difficult child damage inflicted upon it. REconnect with your daughter. Make time to do something special with her. Even just having coffee in the morning or getting your nails done together. Something. Above all, be gentle and kind and forgiving of yourself. You are NOT at fault here. Your son is making bad decisions and will have to handle the consequences. You did not create this and you cannot fix it alone. Some kids just refuse to let us parent them. My own difficult child did this. Many hugs, and total support for whatever you do! [/QUOTE]
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